I don’t know what to do to help my brother
My brother is a great guy. Funny as hell, a great salesman, has a wife and elementary-age child. He has been “trying” to quit drinking and mj for years but he never makes it long. He’ll make it a week and flame out. Now it’s at the point where his wife is reporting he’s exhibiting some very damaging behaviors he’s never done before. His wife is at the end of her rope and has just kicked him out starting tomorrow until he gets sober.
He is a very charismatic guy and does not want me or the fam to know he’s struggling so he puts up “the show” so we don’t see it. But we do. I have offered to drive him to rehab, get him a counselor, take him to a doctor. His wife has /done/ these things and he just sits there and doesn’t respond to questions and doesn’t attend the follow up. When he leaves tomorrow (he doesn’t know we know) what can I do for help? He hasn’t changed for his kid, his wife, his mom… he’s not going to change for me. What can I do to help??? I can’t put him in a car and take him to a hospital as he’s twice my size. His entire life and existence is built around an environment that brings him close to alcohol 6-10 hours a day. I’m really out of ideas and I’m panicking. Because I really think he just wants to take this to its logical end.
I think I need the voices of people who have “been there” to navigate the next few days. Does anyone have thoughts? I don’t know where he’s going so all I can do is text??