I have to do everything in our relationship
Me F/26 and M/26 have been together for almost a year now… next week being one year. He moved in with me about 6 months ago. He was in the market to buy a house and I happened to own mine so we thought that would be silly and why not just move in together.
Since moving in we have had numerous conversations about his cleanliness and how he doesn’t really carry his weight.. it’s a 3 bedroom house 2 story and yes he cooks dinner every day (I’ve tried to intervene and cook but he would much rather do it) to a point I don’t even care anymore because he doesn’t really do anything else.
I do the laundry, sweep, vacuum, mop, wipe the counters, dust, dishes etc. and all he does is cook. He will see me doing stuff and will just sit on the couch watching sports on his phone or texting his friends and laughing out loud.. I’ll get the occasional ask for help, but most of the time he will wait until I’m almost done to ask.
Ive been testing something’s with asking him to help me on things and he either doesn’t do it or he does it half assed and very clearly does it as quick as possible to sit down as quick as possible.
For example, I asked him to help me with my car tire as it was loosing air.. instead it lost air for 2 days straight and I had to go home to fill it up with an air compressor myself. He pulled up to the house and said hi and just walked inside without acknowledging that I was doing something I asked him to help with…
I ended up with a flat tire that next day and figured to not even bother when it comes to asking him to help put the spare on and get the other tire repaired so I just did it myself.
I love this guy but I’m fearful for the rest of my life I’m going to be begging/ arguing with him to help me on things… might I add, when we pay bills we pay 50/50 and he works from home majority of the time as I do not. So by the time we get off work he is ready to leave the house and go to the gym or go hangout with friends.. so when I get off and get home I’m cleaning up his messes from his meals and cleaning up the remainder of what he left for me to do…
What is the best solution I have in front of me?
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