7+ Months of Unwavering Neville Assumption on a Blocked DA Ex Who Cheated — Zero Movement. I’m Done. Warning to Everyone.
Hey everyone,
I’ve been here for months, and I feel like it’s important to share the other side.
I was with a dismissive avoidant for 2.5 years. He told me I was rare and that he loved everything about me except the distance.
Then I caught him cheating (monkey branch with overlap), confronted him, and he blocked me everywhere, called me a stalker, told my mom, and painted me as obsessed. That was October 19th. It’s now almost the end of May — over 7 months of complete silence. No unblock. No story views. No peeks. Zero curiosity. Nothing.
I went all in on Neville. I used heavy revision technique. I changed my assumption so that he was no longer avoidant. My biggest assumption was that I’m the woman men fix themselves for. I did intense SATS with emotional scenes — including a wedding dance scene that felt as real as an actual memory. I replayed it in my mind hundreds of times. I embodied the wife state. I stopped checking his socials on January 1st and stayed disciplined. I assumed delusionally and persisted.
And still… nothing.
I’m not saying LOA is fake, but in high-shame situations like this (cheating exposure + harsh discard + rebound), the specific SP often doesn’t come back no matter how “correctly” you do the work. At least not in any timeframe that doesn’t destroy your mental health.
Right now I’m grieving not just him, but the entire belief system. I feel stupid, rejected by the universe, and heartbroken that I invested so much in something that gave me nothing back. I no longer believe I’m the operant power. I’ve lost faith in Neville, non-duality, and a big part of my spirituality.
If he ever comes crawling back eventually, you have my word — I will come back and update this post. But right now I’m so beyond disgusted. He hasn’t so much as peeked at any of my accounts in 7 months. Zero curiosity. Zero remorse for discarding me so coldly. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. I was always sweet, respectful, and kind to him. I never demanded anything. And yet to him, I was apparently not worthy of choosing over his 3P. If he didn’t decide he wants me by now, I’ve decided I’m done.
Warning to everyone here:
Especially the new people. If your SP discarded you harshly, called you crazy/stalker, has a rebound, and months keep passing… please protect your peace.
The self-proclaimed coaches and “haters” will come for this post. They’ll say I didn’t persist long enough, had subconscious blocks, or wasn’t in the state. They always do. Some of them make money keeping people in hope limbo. They’ll say they manifested their ex back within 6 months with crappy circumstances.
To me, after everything I KNOW I persisted in regarding LOA, sometimes it’s just pure psychology that an ex comes back when they miss the comfort they once had. That doesn’t make it manifesting.
Others will say their ex came back after 2 years, after their next failed relationship. I want to be clear, I have no interest in being anyone’s fallback or second choice. 2 years is ridiculously long to decide you want to be with someone, or miss them. 7 months, to me, is ridiculous too.
I did the work. Many of you are doing the work. Sometimes the bridge of incidents is just prolonged silence. Sometimes the answer is no.
I’m sad. I’m angry. I feel stupid. But I’m also starting to accept that I need to let this version go.
You’re not alone if you’re in the same place.
❤️