r/manifestingSP

Hi everyone

I recently split from my bf in December. We've been together for 7 years...I was the one to end it but it hurt more seeing him accepting it.

I reached out to a wonderful manifestation coach that is on YouTube. She advised me that I need to give it time and to stop forcing the feeling. Which is true. But I am hurting so so much. It's been 6 months but why does it still hurt. I still want this relationship, but I'm hurting and when I try to think these thoughts of him missing me , wanting to reach out,it all just makes me feel low after awhile.

I have days where I feel confident and happy,and that's when I feel more confident about my assumptions and affirmations. Then all of a sudden I feel down and I start missing him and I get into a mood where I want to scream and cry. And here I am crying the day before my birthday....

I need advice..Has anyone ever got through heartbreak while manifesting? How do I even put my focus on myself while hurting and how long does it take to even get over heartbreak and be in a better place to manifest them back?

Does it get better?

EDIT: For anyone who says that woman who breakup with men are insane cause when when they accept the breakup, we want them backup....I broke up with him because I was tired of feeling unimportant to this person. Breaking up with him didn't mean I didn't love him, cause I do. I just wanted him to change

i feel like i messed up my manifestation because he hasn’t messaged me back after i liked his message but didn’t reply thinking it would make him chase me, i know they say time doesn’t matter but i can’t stop thinking about it, it’s been 4 days since i liked it but i left him on delivered for 2 days then liked it so 6 days since he messaged me and he hasn’t messaged me back and it’s making me spiral so hard as everything was going really well and he was opening up to me and said he wants to see me finallyyyy after all this time and he was replying in less than an hour and we were talking all day everyday when he used to leave me on delivered for days and he ghosted me for weeks before that and we were just getting on good terms again 😩 idk if i should cave and message him or not bc i was the one who didn’t reply but i thought liking his message would make him chase me but his instagram notes are triggering me one of the lyrics was about moving on and leaving and i’m like uhhh i hope that’s not abt me 😬 also 2 days ago my feed showed me he liked a post of another girl and it was like rlly suggestive and i’ve seen that’s he’s been online and that triggered me so hard. i’ve been doing a bit of self concept work and i noticed him liking that picture didn’t trigger me hard as it would have say a month ago i just saw it and thought things only have the meaning i assign to them and i’m all that there is so it doesn’t matter but in addition to the texting stuff it annoys me, sorry for the rant!! 💗

I feel like I haven't done a manifestation challenge in a while so here we go! 7 Day “Live from the End” Manifestation Challenge is starting today!

For the next 7 days, every morning when you wake up or before you start your day, grab your journal and write as if you are journaling at the END of your day. You are not writing what you hope happens. You are writing from the version of you who already lived it. The goal is to train your mind to stop waiting and start identifying with the reality you want.

Rules:
• Write in past tense
• Date each entry with that day’s date + a nighttime timestamp (make it up - 11:11pm :P haha don't come for me)
• Write it like you’re reflecting on your day before bed
• Keep it natural, don’t overcomplicate it
• Do it every morning

Example:

May 20th, 11:11 PM

Today felt so good. My love texted me throughout the day and everything between us felt natural again. I felt so calm and secure instead of anxious. I also got an unexpected email about a job opportunity and it finally feels like things are moving in my favor. I ended the night feeling really grateful and relaxed.

Another example:

May 20th, 11:11 PM

I can’t believe how normal everything feels now. I spent the day feeling confident and productive. Business picked up, I had more energy, and I noticed how much easier it is becoming to think positively without forcing it. Everything feels like it’s unfolding naturally for me.

This challenge is not about convincing yourself. It’s about practicing the identity of the version of you who already has it. And remember, don't check the 3D after looking for signs! If it helps, read the previous day entry to get you back into the feeling.

Do this for 7 days consistently and watch how differently your mind starts responding to your reality! Also, if you want us (as in this community) to keep you accountable, comment and write your journal in the thread of your comment each day.

Who is in?

Like him or her saying they don’t want to get back together and stuff, need some motivation lol

I'm manifesting my SP, but lately I admit I'm struggling. I wonder if I'm wasting my time manifesting that person and remaining obsessed with him when I could be using this time to forget about him. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes, and in denial about this whole manifesting thing, I don't know why. I even wonder if just trying to find someone else wouldn't be easier in the end.
Does this happen to you too? What did you choose? How do you manage to stay motivated? Any advice ?

i’m ngl i’m still manifesting my sp and been manifesting her for awhile and that’s my fault i’ve been wavering so it’s been taking so long also sorry if the story isn’t written properly

BUT stuff been happening and it cannot be a coincidence

while i was talking to one of my friends about my sp, and during our conversation. i told them “nah she’s back manifestation is INSTANT” the moment i said that she turned the corner and came over to to talk to us (she ignored me and walked past me the previous day same table)

the same day awhile after that happened, more friends joined like two more friends, and we were telling them about this crazy “coincidence” and then we playfully said maybe we should manifest for one of their’s crush to like them back which the person replied it’s impossible and to manifest something more possible INSTANTLY right away that friend spotted her from afar, at that point we were just like shocked

the next day, i told my close friend who was there when i started my manifestation journey and basically listens to me telling her about manifestation and we do do it together sometimes but not for sp, and we were talking about how if whatever happened the day before happened with her we would definitely be rlly hyped up, and after that we did talk about her sp too and while walking out of the area, we bumped into her sp

at that point we were just amazed LOL then we went back to the table i was at yesterday and while talking about one of her other sps, he also suddenly appeared and walked towards us 😭😭

manifestation is INSTANT i guess and there’s no way there’s so many coincidences

I manifested him feeling my absence and an apology after a year. This is the apology, I will add context after for those curious of the whole situation & I would appreciate any response.

"Hey, i was thinking like couple months already to tell you this i know u probably don't need it anyway i want to apologize for my actions and behavior towards you, and the saddest part l realized after i already did all the shit and it's too late I just missed you lately and I know you doing good and shit and don't have time for this type of shit but I want to say you this anyway, you the best girl I ever met that treated me so good and with respect I wish i was a little smarter and more mature to treat you same way how you deserve, I did wrong and just now feel guilty, idk why I do this now but pls just don't answer me... Its better like that... I know u don't have any resentment and etc.... U really smart, keep playing it smart. I luv u but this luv is terrible."

CONTEXT: We have known each other for over 5 years and it felt like the most natural bond ever everything always felt and easy like the world didnt exist, not a single fight or drama. Things suddenly went south as he tried provoking countless fights (which seemed unnatural considering past behavior) and I just left without a word of explanation because i dont allow disrespectful behavior and didnt wanna provide a reaction.

I knew leaving was the right thing to do and we remained in no contact but regardless of everything I know hes going through a lot of personal/mental health issues and I dont take what happened personal but more as a reflection of his state. I cant help but still value our connection and can appreciate him taking responsibility.

MY RESPONSE: I decided to respond shortly regardless of him saying not to do so with "I hope you find yourself" as I geniuinely feel like thats something he needs to hear and I didn't wanna automatically open access and pour myself out without any confirmation that he's receptive of that. He left this message on read.

QUESTION: I wanted to ask would you interpret this apology as geniuine? I am extremely confused by the contradiction 'I missed you lately' and 'please dont answer' why do you think he asked me not to respond and didnt respond even though I replied? What could be the point. I have my theories but I wanted to consider someone elses perspectives SO I WILL REALLY REALLY APPRECIATE if you share your views. Also what further steps do you recommend?

I think the "technique" that best helps me enter the state is imagining someone else saying my affirmations to me (That is, in the third person) like "they love you, they're obsessed with you," instead of saying them to myself. I do that too, but on bad days, the latter helps me relax more. I imagine someone else saying it to me, either as the voice of my conscience or sometimes unconsciously imagining someone close to me saying it. The same thing works really well for self-concept. It feels like someone is gossiping about him, and my mind feels it's very real, haha.

I think females have soft hearts and we give in easily. So, men don't have to do a lot, or lock in like crazy like we have to.

In almost every male's post it's about how their manifestation came in like in a month or two. Their success stories never have 6-7 months or years of manifesting.

Maybe, this is a limiting belief, but this is also a pattern I am noticing here. Every time a male posts a success story, it seems like manifestation was so easy and quick for him.

Tell me do you agree or disagree. Don't be harsh. Lol. There's no need for anger and bitterness. I see some people here get very angry when they see a different perspective or a perspective that can be put under limiting belief by some.

And what i was afraid of and what he kept repeating that when he meets someone he will give her a chance and test the relationship.

There is a part of me who isn't believing this happened, and there is a part of me who's heartbroken. Now what?

Ok guys I'm giving up i don't think I can ever manifest my sp back it's been so long and becoming so frustrating for me

I have been seeing/hearing his name everywhere. I haven't had dreams about him yet, but I do think of him a lot. And I assume that when I'm thinking of him it's cause he's thinking of me. And I also assume he's gonna break no contact any second now. Is there anything else I can do to amplify results/movements?

I’ve been manifesting my sp for about 3 months now. I’ve seen the signs and things that kinda do show SOMETHING is working … and some days I’m really locked in. I was super locked in until I saw a couple things that triggered me the other day (like him suddenly stopped viewing my stories after 2 months) but also, what really triggers me sometimes is seeing people’s failed stories…. Like I saw someone that was like “I did everything right, stopped checking for a year.. now he’s married with a kid) …. And it really makes me step back & start to feel crazy… because I see stories like that. It’s only been 3 months for me and I miss my sp like crazy. I can def feel his energy every day…. And manifesting him def keeps me hanging on… so I think I get really fearful when I see shit like that… I try to not let it consume me tho, I try to just let the fear come up then release it and get back to my knowing (which is getting easier ) but idk. It still kinda makes me wobble a good bit seeing stuff like that.

A lot of people talk about how they manifested their SP, but not a lot of people talk about how they maintained the relationship afterwards or how they made sure they didn’t just recreate the exact same relationship dynamics all over again.

And honestly, I think that’s because most people are so focused on “getting” the person back that they never actually become a different version of themselves internally. So even if the SP comes back, the same fears, insecurities, wounds, triggers, and assumptions are still sitting underneath the surface, quietly waiting to recreate the same reality again.

One of the biggest things that changed my relationship after manifesting my SP back was that I completely dropped the old story. And I don’t mean I “tried” to drop it while still replaying old arguments in my head every night or secretly identifying with being abandoned, rejected, hurt, betrayed, or left behind. I mean that eventually, after truly understanding how manifestation works and after a lot of processing, grieving, self reflection, forgiveness, and emotional honesty with myself, the old story genuinely stopped existing inside of me emotionally.

And I think the reason I was able to do that is because I finally understood that I had manifested the original version of the relationship too.

That was honestly an incredibly difficult thing for me to process at first because while there were obviously multiple issues in our relationship, one of the biggest issues was me. And I say that now with a tremendous amount of compassion toward myself because I genuinely didn’t know any better at the time. I didn’t understand state. I didn’t understand that our assumptions, fears, inner stories, emotional patterns, and identities are constantly shaping our reality. I didn’t understand that manifestation wasn’t some magical tool I discovered online one day, but rather a process that had been happening in my life unconsciously the entire time.

Before I understood this work, I genuinely felt like life was happening to me. I felt powerless in so many areas of my life. I felt like good things happened to other people consistently, but not necessarily to me. I had a lot of self concept issues not just romantically, but generally. I felt like life was hard. I felt like the things I deeply wanted were somehow always slightly out of reach for me. I felt like I had to struggle for love, struggle for security, struggle for peace.

And one of the biggest ways this manifested in my relationship was through anxious attachment.

What’s actually funny is that when I first met my SP, I was incredibly nonchalant. Truly. I had this attitude of, “I’m the prize. He’s lucky to be with me.” And that’s exactly what reflected back to me. He pursued me for a long time. He was obsessed with me. We had so much fun together. There was ease. There was lightness. There was playfulness. I was super into him, but I wasn’t emotionally consumed by the relationship whatsoever.

And then everything changed the moment I realized, oh my god, this is actually the love of my life.

The second I genuinely loved him and realized how deeply I wanted this relationship, every wound inside of me came flying to the surface at once. It was like all of my deepest fears suddenly got activated overnight. I had this deeply unconscious belief that when I truly love someone, I don’t get to keep them. And if I do get them, eventually they leave. I felt fundamentally unworthy of being fully chosen long term. There was this underlying fear constantly running in the background of my mind that eventually he would realize I wasn’t enough, realize I was too much, realize I was flawed, realize this relationship wasn’t sustainable, and leave.

And because that was the state I was operating from, I became incredibly controlling emotionally. Not controlling in some evil manipulative way, but controlling in the way anxious attachment often is. I constantly needed reassurance. I needed certainty. I needed guarantees. I needed firm commitment about the future. I needed to know where this was going. I needed to know we were okay. I needed to know he wasn’t leaving. I put so much pressure onto the relationship because internally I was terrified all the time.

Looking back now, I can see so clearly that I created a relationship dynamic that felt like a pressure cooker. There was so much fear, so much hypervigilance, so much emotional pressure sitting underneath everything that eventually the relationship genuinely had no choice but to erupt. But at the time, I was completely unconscious of all of this. When things finally exploded between us and the breakup happened, I felt blindsided because consciously all I could think was, “But we love each other. We’re soulmates. How did this happen?”

And then I found the Law of Assumption. Or rather, it found me.

And once I started truly understanding the law and truly understanding how states create reality, I had one of the most painful but transformative realizations of my life, which was realizing that I had manifested the breakup too. Not because I was being punished. Not because I was bad. Not because I deserved pain. But because my state had been constantly creating from fear, insecurity, abandonment, hypervigilance, and the assumption that love wasn’t safe for me to keep.

That realization was brutal at first. I’m not going to pretend it wasn’t. There was so much grief in that realization because suddenly I had to face myself fully. I had to face my patterns. I had to face the fact that the inner world I’d been unconsciously carrying my entire life had been reflected back to me not only in this relationship, but in so many areas of my life.

But eventually something shifted inside of me and I stopped being angry at myself.

Because when I really looked at myself honestly, I could see that the version of me who created those circumstances was wounded. She was scared. She didn’t know that her state created reality. She didn’t know that she was the operant power in her life. She didn’t know that she could trust herself, trust life, trust love, trust the unfolding of things. She genuinely believed she had to grip tightly onto love or it would disappear.

And so instead of hating her, I forgave her. I forgave the little girl in me. I forgave the teenager in me. I forgave the woman in me who’d been wounding herself without realizing it. And once I truly forgave myself, I dropped the old story almost naturally.

And this, genuinely, was the biggest shift that changed my relationship forever.

Because once I understood that I had created the old story from state, there was nothing left to obsess over anymore. There was nothing left to resent. Nothing left to replay. I stopped replaying the breakup. I stopped replaying the arguments. I stopped reliving the circumstances. I stopped emotionally identifying with the woman who’d experienced all of that. Not because I was forcing positivity. Not because I was “robotically affirming.” But because I genuinely understood where it all came from.

And the second I dropped the old story internally, my SP reflected that right back to me.

When we got back together, it genuinely felt like the old relationship no longer existed between us. The emotional charge around it was gone. The fear was gone. The resentment was gone. The insecurity was gone. It honestly felt like two completely different people entering into a completely different relationship.

To this day, my SP and I joke about things that happened in the old version of our relationship. And I know that probably sounds insane to people who are still deeply triggered by their old story, but when something genuinely no longer emotionally belongs to you, it becomes light. It becomes almost funny. Like, “Oh my god, remember when you broke up with me?” and we laugh.

Not because I’m pretending it didn’t hurt. But because it genuinely doesn’t hurt anymore. That version of us no longer exists.

And you can’t trick yourself into that. You can’t fake it. You can’t pretend something doesn’t trigger you while internally still identifying with it. This work has to become real and embodied. You genuinely have to become a different version of yourself internally.

I never sat around affirming that my SP would become a better version of himself. I never obsessed over changing him. I made this entirely about me. I focused on becoming emotionally safe within myself. I focused on understanding how I’d been creating my entire life. I focused on dropping the identity of being abandoned, rejected, unworthy, fearful, hypervigilant. I focused on trusting myself, trusting love, trusting life, trusting my ability to create something different.

And because I changed internally, my relationship had no choice but to reflect that back.

That’s why this relationship became healthy. That’s why it became stable. That’s why it became peaceful. That’s why it only continues to get better and better with time. Because I no longer identify with the version of me who created the original relationship dynamics in the first place.

The version of my relationship I’m in today genuinely feels nothing like the old version because the version of me who exists today is nothing like the woman who created that first relationship. And honestly, I think that’s what manifestation actually is.

It’s not forcing reality to change while remaining the same person internally. It’s becoming someone entirely different, and reality simply mirrors that back to you.

Can anyone tried to attract s*x... I am male introvert... Please suggest some subliminals to attract it... I don't have any specific person in my mind... I just want to try it experience it...

When it comes to manifesting a specific person (SP) using the Law of Assumption or similar principles, blocks often arise from internal resistance, limiting beliefs, or misalignment with your desired state.

Here are the most common blocks people encounter, based on widely discussed manifestation concepts:

Doubting it's possible

Thinking your SP is "out of reach" or that manifesting them defies logic creates resistance. If you assume it’s unlikely, your reality reflects that.

Obsessing Over the ‘How’

Fixating on how they’ll come back or change their behaviour shifts focus away from assuming the end result, stalling the process.

Lack of Self-Concept

If you don’t see yourself as worthy, lovable, or deserving, your SP won’t reflect that back. A weak self-image undermines the assumption they want you.

Clinging to the old story

Repeating past rejection, arguments, or their current disinterest keeps you stuck in that version of reality instead of assuming a new one.

Impatience or Desperation

Checking for results or feeling needy signals you don’t fully believe it’s already yours, which pushes the manifestation away.

Focusing on Their Free Will

Worrying about “forcing” them or their independence contradicts the assumption they naturally align with your desire.

Negative Assumptions About Them

Assuming they don’t care, won’t change, or are against you reinforces that reality instead of the one you want.

Overcomplicating the Process

Thinking you need endless techniques or perfect conditions blocks the simplicity of just assuming it’s done.

Emotional Attachment to Lack

Feeling lonely, sad, or incomplete without them is being aware of the “absence” rather than the fulfilment of having them.

External Validation Seeking

Relying on their actions or words to confirm your manifestation means you’re not fully living in the end state internally.

Inconsistent Assumptions - Being Double-Minded

Flip-flopping between “they’re mine” and “they’re not” confuses your subconscious and dilutes the outcome.

Fear of Failure

Worrying it won’t work plants seeds of doubt that grow into a reality where it doesn’t.

Overanalysing Their Current State

Obsessing over their social media, who they’re with, or what they’re doing now keeps you tethered to the unwanted present.

Not Letting Go

Holding too tight to the outcome, instead of assuming it’s done and moving on mentally, creates tension.

Unresolved Inner Conflicts

Guilt, shame, or past baggage about relationships can silently sabotage your belief in a happy outcome with your SP.