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Okay, I know this one’s a little bit out there, but if you believe in the law of assumption, well, you believe you’re the operant power of your reality, so here I go.

Today, Arsenal F.C. won the Premier League for the first time in 22 years.

Now, the backstory here is that a few weeks ago in April, Arsenal had a massive game against Manchester City F.C. that everybody basically considered the deciding factor for the title race. And when I tell you that game did not go in Arsenal’s favor, I mean literally everybody online, every football fan, every commentator, every prediction account, every person around us was basically like, “Yeah, City’s winning the league.”

For context, my fiancé is a diehard Arsenal fan. Like genuinely diehard. He’s been waiting for Arsenal to win the league for literally 22 years. This is his club. Our club now, honestly. And this was also the year we moved to London. Arsenal is a North London club, we live close to North London, and it just felt like one of those things that would become this incredibly meaningful memory in our lives if they won the league this year.

So after that Manchester City game, he was incredibly disheartened. Like truly gutted. And instead of spiraling with him or focusing on all the reasons why Arsenal “wasn’t going to win anymore,” I did what I always do with manifestation. I stopped focusing on the circumstance itself and I asked myself, okay, what is it that I actually want to experience here?

And the answer honestly had very little to do with football itself.

What I wanted to experience was being at the Arsenal parade in London with my fiancé during our first year living here. I wanted the feeling of that memory. I wanted the feeling of standing there in a sea of Arsenal fans while my fiancé celebrated something he’d waited over two decades for. I wanted that really surreal, cinematic, “we moved to London and Arsenal won the league” kind of moment. THAT was the actual desire.

And this is why I always say that understanding your real desire is so important in manifestation. Because the actual desire usually is not the circumstance itself. It’s the experience you want to have. It’s the state you want to embody.

So what did I do?

The night after the City game, I sat there and tapped into the feeling of being the version of me who was already at the parade with him celebrating. I imagined us there. I imagined the energy. The joy. The craziness of London. Him being emotional and ecstatic. Me feeling so happy watching him experience that. I tapped into the feeling of what it would feel like to already be living that reality.

And after I did that, I remember very clearly just deciding internally, “Yep. That’s what’s booked for me. That’s what I’m getting.”

And from that moment on, I genuinely never swayed.

I didn’t care what people online were saying. I didn’t care what the statistics said. I didn’t care that everybody around us thought Arsenal had bottled the title. I didn’t care how nervous my fiancé got before every game after that. Every single time the topic came up, internally I stayed anchored in the exact same end. “Nope. We’re going to that parade. Arsenal is winning the league. This is the reality I’m experiencing.”

And the important thing here is that I wasn’t obsessively trying to force Arsenal to win. I wasn’t sitting there affirming “Arsenal wins the league” 500 times a day. I was focused entirely on the end experience I desired for myself. The version of me who was already living that reality naturally.

And as of about 15 minutes ago, Arsenal has officially won the Premier League after 22 years.

So listen. You can think this is delusional. You can think it’s coincidence. You can think I’m insane. That’s fine. But if you genuinely believe in the law of assumption and genuinely believe you are the operant power of your reality, then logically you also have to admit that everything in your reality is being filtered through your consciousness and assumptions.

And honestly?

I’d say this is one of my favorite manifestations yet.

Okay, I know this one’s a little bit out there, but if you believe in the law of assumption, well, you believe you’re the operant power of your reality, so here I go.

Today, Arsenal F.C. won the Premier League for the first time in 22 years.

Now, the backstory here is that a few weeks ago in April, Arsenal had a massive game against Manchester City F.C. that everybody basically considered the deciding factor for the title race. And when I tell you that game did not go in Arsenal’s favor, I mean literally everybody online, every football fan, every commentator, every prediction account, every person around us was basically like, “Yeah, City’s winning the league.”

For context, my fiancé is a diehard Arsenal fan. Like genuinely diehard. He’s been waiting for Arsenal to win the league for literally 22 years. This is his club. Our club now, honestly. And this was also the year we moved to London. Arsenal is a North London club, we live close to North London, and it just felt like one of those things that would become this incredibly meaningful memory in our lives if they won the league this year.

So after that Manchester City game, he was incredibly disheartened. Like truly gutted. And instead of spiraling with him or focusing on all the reasons why Arsenal “wasn’t going to win anymore,” I did what I always do with manifestation. I stopped focusing on the circumstance itself and I asked myself, okay, what is it that I actually want to experience here?

And the answer honestly had very little to do with football itself.

What I wanted to experience was being at the Arsenal parade in London with my fiancé during our first year living here. I wanted the feeling of that memory. I wanted the feeling of standing there in a sea of Arsenal fans while my fiancé celebrated something he’d waited over two decades for. I wanted that really surreal, cinematic, “we moved to London and Arsenal won the league” kind of moment. THAT was the actual desire.

And this is why I always say that understanding your real desire is so important in manifestation. Because the actual desire usually is not the circumstance itself. It’s the experience you want to have. It’s the state you want to embody.

So what did I do?

The night after the City game, I sat there and tapped into the feeling of being the version of me who was already at the parade with him celebrating. I imagined us there. I imagined the energy. The joy. The craziness of London. Him being emotional and ecstatic. Me feeling so happy watching him experience that. I tapped into the feeling of what it would feel like to already be living that reality.

And after I did that, I remember very clearly just deciding internally, “Yep. That’s what’s booked for me. That’s what I’m getting.”

And from that moment on, I genuinely never swayed.

I didn’t care what people online were saying. I didn’t care what the statistics said. I didn’t care that everybody around us thought Arsenal had bottled the title. I didn’t care how nervous my fiancé got before every game after that. Every single time the topic came up, internally I stayed anchored in the exact same end. “Nope. We’re going to that parade. Arsenal is winning the league. This is the reality I’m experiencing.”

And the important thing here is that I wasn’t obsessively trying to force Arsenal to win. I wasn’t sitting there affirming “Arsenal wins the league” 500 times a day. I was focused entirely on the end experience I desired for myself. The version of me who was already living that reality naturally.

And as of about 15 minutes ago, Arsenal has officially won the Premier League after 22 years.

So listen. You can think this is delusional. You can think it’s coincidence. You can think I’m insane. That’s fine. But if you genuinely believe in the law of assumption and genuinely believe you are the operant power of your reality, then logically you also have to admit that everything in your reality is being filtered through your consciousness and assumptions.

And honestly?

I’d say this is one of my favorite manifestations yet.

Okay, I know this one’s a little bit out there, but if you believe in the law of assumption, well, you believe you’re the operant power of your reality, so here I go.

Today, Arsenal F.C. won the Premier League for the first time in 22 years.

Now, the backstory here is that a few weeks ago in April, Arsenal had a massive game against Manchester City F.C. that everybody basically considered the deciding factor for the title race. And when I tell you that game did not go in Arsenal’s favor, I mean literally everybody online, every football fan, every commentator, every prediction account, every person around us was basically like, “Yeah, City’s winning the league.”

For context, my fiancé is a diehard Arsenal fan. Like genuinely diehard. He’s been waiting for Arsenal to win the league for literally 22 years. This is his club. Our club now, honestly. And this was also the year we moved to London. Arsenal is a North London club, we live close to North London, and it just felt like one of those things that would become this incredibly meaningful memory in our lives if they won the league this year.

So after that Manchester City game, he was incredibly disheartened. Like truly gutted. And instead of spiraling with him or focusing on all the reasons why Arsenal “wasn’t going to win anymore,” I did what I always do with manifestation. I stopped focusing on the circumstance itself and I asked myself, okay, what is it that I actually want to experience here?

And the answer honestly had very little to do with football itself.

What I wanted to experience was being at the Arsenal parade in London with my fiancé during our first year living here. I wanted the feeling of that memory. I wanted the feeling of standing there in a sea of Arsenal fans while my fiancé celebrated something he’d waited over two decades for. I wanted that really surreal, cinematic, “we moved to London and Arsenal won the league” kind of moment. THAT was the actual desire.

And this is why I always say that understanding your real desire is so important in manifestation. Because the actual desire usually is not the circumstance itself. It’s the experience you want to have. It’s the state you want to embody.

So what did I do?

The night after the City game, I sat there and tapped into the feeling of being the version of me who was already at the parade with him celebrating. I imagined us there. I imagined the energy. The joy. The craziness of London. Him being emotional and ecstatic. Me feeling so happy watching him experience that. I tapped into the feeling of what it would feel like to already be living that reality.

And after I did that, I remember very clearly just deciding internally, “Yep. That’s what’s booked for me. That’s what I’m getting.”

And from that moment on, I genuinely never swayed.

I didn’t care what people online were saying. I didn’t care what the statistics said. I didn’t care that everybody around us thought Arsenal had bottled the title. I didn’t care how nervous my fiancé got before every game after that. Every single time the topic came up, internally I stayed anchored in the exact same end. “Nope. We’re going to that parade. Arsenal is winning the league. This is the reality I’m experiencing.”

And the important thing here is that I wasn’t obsessively trying to force Arsenal to win. I wasn’t sitting there affirming “Arsenal wins the league” 500 times a day. I was focused entirely on the end experience I desired for myself. The version of me who was already living that reality naturally.

And as of about 15 minutes ago, Arsenal has officially won the Premier League after 22 years.

So listen. You can think this is delusional. You can think it’s coincidence. You can think I’m insane. That’s fine. But if you genuinely believe in the law of assumption and genuinely believe you are the operant power of your reality, then logically you also have to admit that everything in your reality is being filtered through your consciousness and assumptions.

And honestly?

I’d say this is one of my favorite manifestations yet.

A lot of people talk about how they manifested their SP, but not a lot of people talk about how they maintained the relationship afterwards or how they made sure they didn’t just recreate the exact same relationship dynamics all over again.

And honestly, I think that’s because most people are so focused on “getting” the person back that they never actually become a different version of themselves internally. So even if the SP comes back, the same fears, insecurities, wounds, triggers, and assumptions are still sitting underneath the surface, quietly waiting to recreate the same reality again.

One of the biggest things that changed my relationship after manifesting my SP back was that I completely dropped the old story. And I don’t mean I “tried” to drop it while still replaying old arguments in my head every night or secretly identifying with being abandoned, rejected, hurt, betrayed, or left behind. I mean that eventually, after truly understanding how manifestation works and after a lot of processing, grieving, self reflection, forgiveness, and emotional honesty with myself, the old story genuinely stopped existing inside of me emotionally.

And I think the reason I was able to do that is because I finally understood that I had manifested the original version of the relationship too.

That was honestly an incredibly difficult thing for me to process at first because while there were obviously multiple issues in our relationship, one of the biggest issues was me. And I say that now with a tremendous amount of compassion toward myself because I genuinely didn’t know any better at the time. I didn’t understand state. I didn’t understand that our assumptions, fears, inner stories, emotional patterns, and identities are constantly shaping our reality. I didn’t understand that manifestation wasn’t some magical tool I discovered online one day, but rather a process that had been happening in my life unconsciously the entire time.

Before I understood this work, I genuinely felt like life was happening to me. I felt powerless in so many areas of my life. I felt like good things happened to other people consistently, but not necessarily to me. I had a lot of self concept issues not just romantically, but generally. I felt like life was hard. I felt like the things I deeply wanted were somehow always slightly out of reach for me. I felt like I had to struggle for love, struggle for security, struggle for peace.

And one of the biggest ways this manifested in my relationship was through anxious attachment.

What’s actually funny is that when I first met my SP, I was incredibly nonchalant. Truly. I had this attitude of, “I’m the prize. He’s lucky to be with me.” And that’s exactly what reflected back to me. He pursued me for a long time. He was obsessed with me. We had so much fun together. There was ease. There was lightness. There was playfulness. I was super into him, but I wasn’t emotionally consumed by the relationship whatsoever.

And then everything changed the moment I realized, oh my god, this is actually the love of my life.

The second I genuinely loved him and realized how deeply I wanted this relationship, every wound inside of me came flying to the surface at once. It was like all of my deepest fears suddenly got activated overnight. I had this deeply unconscious belief that when I truly love someone, I don’t get to keep them. And if I do get them, eventually they leave. I felt fundamentally unworthy of being fully chosen long term. There was this underlying fear constantly running in the background of my mind that eventually he would realize I wasn’t enough, realize I was too much, realize I was flawed, realize this relationship wasn’t sustainable, and leave.

And because that was the state I was operating from, I became incredibly controlling emotionally. Not controlling in some evil manipulative way, but controlling in the way anxious attachment often is. I constantly needed reassurance. I needed certainty. I needed guarantees. I needed firm commitment about the future. I needed to know where this was going. I needed to know we were okay. I needed to know he wasn’t leaving. I put so much pressure onto the relationship because internally I was terrified all the time.

Looking back now, I can see so clearly that I created a relationship dynamic that felt like a pressure cooker. There was so much fear, so much hypervigilance, so much emotional pressure sitting underneath everything that eventually the relationship genuinely had no choice but to erupt. But at the time, I was completely unconscious of all of this. When things finally exploded between us and the breakup happened, I felt blindsided because consciously all I could think was, “But we love each other. We’re soulmates. How did this happen?”

And then I found the Law of Assumption. Or rather, it found me.

And once I started truly understanding the law and truly understanding how states create reality, I had one of the most painful but transformative realizations of my life, which was realizing that I had manifested the breakup too. Not because I was being punished. Not because I was bad. Not because I deserved pain. But because my state had been constantly creating from fear, insecurity, abandonment, hypervigilance, and the assumption that love wasn’t safe for me to keep.

That realization was brutal at first. I’m not going to pretend it wasn’t. There was so much grief in that realization because suddenly I had to face myself fully. I had to face my patterns. I had to face the fact that the inner world I’d been unconsciously carrying my entire life had been reflected back to me not only in this relationship, but in so many areas of my life.

But eventually something shifted inside of me and I stopped being angry at myself.

Because when I really looked at myself honestly, I could see that the version of me who created those circumstances was wounded. She was scared. She didn’t know that her state created reality. She didn’t know that she was the operant power in her life. She didn’t know that she could trust herself, trust life, trust love, trust the unfolding of things. She genuinely believed she had to grip tightly onto love or it would disappear.

And so instead of hating her, I forgave her. I forgave the little girl in me. I forgave the teenager in me. I forgave the woman in me who’d been wounding herself without realizing it. And once I truly forgave myself, I dropped the old story almost naturally.

And this, genuinely, was the biggest shift that changed my relationship forever.

Because once I understood that I had created the old story from state, there was nothing left to obsess over anymore. There was nothing left to resent. Nothing left to replay. I stopped replaying the breakup. I stopped replaying the arguments. I stopped reliving the circumstances. I stopped emotionally identifying with the woman who’d experienced all of that. Not because I was forcing positivity. Not because I was “robotically affirming.” But because I genuinely understood where it all came from.

And the second I dropped the old story internally, my SP reflected that right back to me.

When we got back together, it genuinely felt like the old relationship no longer existed between us. The emotional charge around it was gone. The fear was gone. The resentment was gone. The insecurity was gone. It honestly felt like two completely different people entering into a completely different relationship.

To this day, my SP and I joke about things that happened in the old version of our relationship. And I know that probably sounds insane to people who are still deeply triggered by their old story, but when something genuinely no longer emotionally belongs to you, it becomes light. It becomes almost funny. Like, “Oh my god, remember when you broke up with me?” and we laugh.

Not because I’m pretending it didn’t hurt. But because it genuinely doesn’t hurt anymore. That version of us no longer exists.

And you can’t trick yourself into that. You can’t fake it. You can’t pretend something doesn’t trigger you while internally still identifying with it. This work has to become real and embodied. You genuinely have to become a different version of yourself internally.

I never sat around affirming that my SP would become a better version of himself. I never obsessed over changing him. I made this entirely about me. I focused on becoming emotionally safe within myself. I focused on understanding how I’d been creating my entire life. I focused on dropping the identity of being abandoned, rejected, unworthy, fearful, hypervigilant. I focused on trusting myself, trusting love, trusting life, trusting my ability to create something different.

And because I changed internally, my relationship had no choice but to reflect that back.

That’s why this relationship became healthy. That’s why it became stable. That’s why it became peaceful. That’s why it only continues to get better and better with time. Because I no longer identify with the version of me who created the original relationship dynamics in the first place.

The version of my relationship I’m in today genuinely feels nothing like the old version because the version of me who exists today is nothing like the woman who created that first relationship. And honestly, I think that’s what manifestation actually is.

It’s not forcing reality to change while remaining the same person internally. It’s becoming someone entirely different, and reality simply mirrors that back to you.

In early summer 2022, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me. At first, I don’t even think I fully understood how devastating it was going to be, but within a couple of days, I was completely shattered. I couldn’t stop crying. I felt like my entire world had cracked open.

A few days after the breakup, I went to a temple. I was raised somewhat religious, Hindu with a bit of Sikhism sprinkled in, but I never really knew what I believed. I always believed there was something greater than me, some kind of God or higher power, but my relationship to it was mostly fear-based. It felt like something I had to answer to, something watching me, judging me, punishing me. I definitely lived most of my life in a state of victimhood too, and I had for years.

That day at the temple, I was honestly just crying my eyes out and speaking from my heart. I basically said, if there is something out there, and I don’t even know if anyone is listening, but if there is something out there that truly cares about me, please show me the way forward.

That moment brought me peace. Not because everything was magically fixed, but because for the first time in a long time, I felt held by something.

About 36 to 48 hours later, I randomly found a spiritual coach on Instagram. To this day, I don’t fully know why I clicked on her page, but I did, and I booked a one-on-one session. I thought we were going to talk about manifestation in the usual Law of Attraction way.

For context, my mom had introduced me to The Secret when I was around 12. I knew about positive thinking, Abraham Hicks, all of that. But if I’m being honest, I never really used any of it in a real way. I had terrible self-concept for most of my life. I had a history of undervaluing myself, bad relationships, emotionally unhealthy dynamics, and just generally not believing I was worthy of something truly good. I had spent years in relationships that were wrong for me, and I think deep down I didn’t believe I was going to get better.

So when I got on that call, I thought we were going to talk about attracting love, being positive, maybe soulmate stuff. Instead, she introduced me to the Law of Assumption.

I had never heard of it before.

And during that call, she said something that planted a seed in my mind. She basically said, you sound like you’re really in love with your ex. Why don’t you just manifest your specific person?

I honestly didn’t even know that was possible. I thought it might be manipulative or wrong. I had all the same doubts a lot of people have in the beginning. But something about that conversation cracked something open in me, and from that point forward, I dove headfirst into Neville, the Law of Assumption, and manifesting my SP.

And when I say I went all in, I mean all in.

That entire summer, my life revolved around manifesting him. I was consuming content constantly. I read Neville. I listened to lectures. I watched YouTube videos like it was my full-time job. I read success stories on Reddit constantly because they made me believe it was possible. I downloaded SP workbooks. I did meditations in the morning where I reminded myself I was God, the operant power, the creator of my reality. I danced in the mornings because music helps me shift my state. I visualized engagement. I had inner conversations. I acted as if. I listened to affirmations while sleeping. I did self-concept work. I did every single thing I could find.

And to be fair, there was movement.

I started all of this in early June, and by the end of July, after a period of no contact, my SP reached out. He told me he was moving across the country, but he wanted to see me before he left. I obviously spiraled a little because now I was like, okay, how do I manifest on a time crunch, how do I stop him from leaving, how do I fix this. But we spent that week together, and it was honestly beautiful. It was so clear that we still loved each other. Neither of us was really saying it outright, and we weren’t back together, but it was there.

Then he still moved away.

At our last dinner together, I even told him, and I still laugh thinking about this, you don’t know this yet, but I’m your wife, and one day you will. He smiled like the polite gentleman he is, and then he moved away.

After that, we went no contact for three and a half months.

And those three and a half months were brutal. I doubled down even more. I found another coach. I did more self-concept work. I listened to affirmation tapes at night. I had inner conversations constantly. I visualized him being in my apartment, in my bed, in my life. I felt both his presence and the lack of his presence at the same time. I was trying so hard. And if I’m being really honest, I was driving myself insane.

My friends started telling me I was obsessed and needed to let it go. That I had become kind of reclusive. That I was making myself miserable. And they weren’t wrong. I just wasn’t willing to stop, because something in me knew this person mattered deeply.

The week before my birthday, I went back to the temple. I was crying again just like I had been at the beginning of the summer, and I said something like: you showed me the way once. I know there is something here. I know this is real. But something is not clicking. Please show me the way forward.

And this is when everything changed.

Shortly after that, I found the coach I still work with today. She taught me what the Law of Assumption actually is. Not content-level understanding. Not surface-level “do this technique and get this thing.” I mean a real understanding of what manifestation actually is.

She said one sentence that changed my life:

You manifest who you are, and you cannot stop that process.

That sentence changed everything for me.

Up until that point, I thought manifestation meant doing techniques to make something happen. Like applying some external force, or using enough tools, or doing enough visualizing, affirming, acting as if, or whatever else to create the future I wanted.

But the Law is actually much simpler than that.

The Law of Assumption is not about learning some brand new magic tool. It’s about understanding what you are already doing that manifests your life. You are manifesting constantly. You cannot stop that process. Your beliefs, your expectations, your state of being, what you believe is true for you, what feels normal and natural to you, what you assume about your future, that is what is shaping your reality all the time.

And when I really saw that, I couldn’t unsee it.

Because if you are manifesting anyway, then you are manifesting anyway. Even when you are spiraling. Even when you are doubting. Even when you think you’ve given up. You are still manifesting. Which means you can’t keep turning a blind eye to what you are actually assuming to be true for you.

That was the shift.

I stopped trying to make something happen and started understanding the process by which I had been creating my life this whole time. And once I understood that, I could finally use that same process in my favor.

So I dropped almost everything I had been doing.

No more obsessive inner conversations. No more trying to act as if in some forced, weird way. No more micromanaging the 3D. No more trying to manipulate reality into changing. No more making it all about him.

That part was huge.

Because the biggest shift for me was that I stopped making it about him and started making it about me.

I realized that manifestation always happens from your perspective. So instead of obsessing over whether he was coming back, what he was doing, what he was thinking, whether he missed me, whether it was working, I started focusing on my actual desire.

And my actual desire was not just “this specific person.”

My actual desire was to be in the happiest, safest, most loving relationship of my life. To be with my soulmate. To feel secure, adored, chosen, peaceful. To be a happy partner. To be a happy wife. He represented that for me, and deep down I still knew he was my person, but I stopped making the work about controlling him and started making it about becoming the version of me who was already living that reality.

My SATS changed completely too.

Instead of doing elaborate scenes or trying to force visualizations, I would just close my eyes and feel into the life I wanted. What does it feel like to live with the person you love? What does it feel like to be a happy wife? What does it feel like to feel deeply safe and secure in your relationship?

And importantly, this was not me pretending it was already here in the 3D. That’s another big thing that clicked for me. It wasn’t about pretending I was married right now. It wasn’t about delusion. It was about inner knowing. It was about knowing that this future was mine. Not one day maybe, not distant and abstract, but real, close, imminent. Like I could almost taste it.

The best analogy I have is ordering something online. Once you’ve checked out, you know it’s coming. You don’t keep asking if the order is real. You don’t sit there spiraling about whether it exists. You know it’s booked. You know it’s done. You know it’s on its way.

That’s how it started to feel for me.

I knew what I was manifesting. I knew the future that was mine. I didn’t need to check the 3D every five seconds asking, is it working, is it happening, where is it, why isn’t it here yet. Because when something feels like the natural outcome, you don’t interrogate it constantly. You just know.

So when thoughts about the future came up, I would return to that knowing. Oh yeah, that’s what’s going to happen for me. I know what’s booked for me. I know where this is going. And then I would live my life.

I think that’s also where people talk about “detachment,” but to me it wasn’t detachment in the sense of not caring. I cared deeply. It was more that it became so natural and so expected that I stopped obsessing. It was like, of course that’s what’s going to happen. Duh. And because of that, I could actually enjoy my life again.

That became my state.

I would journal. I would do Faster EFT to move emotions and clear what was in the way if I noticed fear, grief, lack, old memories, or resistance. I would do short SATS and keep returning to the feeling of the end until it felt natural and normal for me. And then I would go live my life. Fully. Presently. Happily. Not because I had “given up,” but because I knew what was coming.

Within five weeks of that shift, he was back.

Not only was he back, but he told me I was the love of his life, that he had made a mistake, and that he wanted to get married to me. Nine months later, we got engaged. And now we’re getting married in ten months.

But the biggest thing is that this wasn’t just a one-time manifestation.

This changed my life because it changed the way I live. It moved me out of victimhood. It taught me that life is happening through me, not to me. It taught me to stop entertaining futures I don’t want. It taught me that my state of being matters. It taught me to stop making my life about fear and start making it about what I actually desire.

And that’s why I’ve been able to keep this relationship too. Because this became a lifestyle, not a one-time technique.

In early summer 2022, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me. At first, I don’t even think I fully understood how devastating it was going to be, but within a couple of days, I was completely shattered. I couldn’t stop crying. I felt like my entire world had cracked open.

A few days after the breakup, I went to a temple. I was raised somewhat religious, Hindu with a bit of Sikhism sprinkled in, but I never really knew what I believed. I always believed there was something greater than me, some kind of God or higher power, but my relationship to it was mostly fear-based. It felt like something I had to answer to, something watching me, judging me, punishing me. I definitely lived most of my life in a state of victimhood too, and I had for years.

That day at the temple, I was honestly just crying my eyes out and speaking from my heart. I basically said, if there is something out there, and I don’t even know if anyone is listening, but if there is something out there that truly cares about me, please show me the way forward.

That moment brought me peace. Not because everything was magically fixed, but because for the first time in a long time, I felt held by something.

About 36 to 48 hours later, I randomly found a spiritual coach on Instagram. To this day, I don’t fully know why I clicked on her page, but I did, and I booked a one-on-one session. I thought we were going to talk about manifestation in the usual Law of Attraction way.

For context, my mom had introduced me to The Secret when I was around 12. I knew about positive thinking, Abraham Hicks, all of that. But if I’m being honest, I never really used any of it in a real way. I had terrible self-concept for most of my life. I had a history of undervaluing myself, bad relationships, emotionally unhealthy dynamics, and just generally not believing I was worthy of something truly good. I had spent years in relationships that were wrong for me, and I think deep down I didn’t believe I was going to get better.

So when I got on that call, I thought we were going to talk about attracting love, being positive, maybe soulmate stuff. Instead, she introduced me to the Law of Assumption.

I had never heard of it before.

And during that call, she said something that planted a seed in my mind. She basically said, you sound like you’re really in love with your ex. Why don’t you just manifest your specific person?

I honestly didn’t even know that was possible. I thought it might be manipulative or wrong. I had all the same doubts a lot of people have in the beginning. But something about that conversation cracked something open in me, and from that point forward, I dove headfirst into Neville, the Law of Assumption, and manifesting my SP.

And when I say I went all in, I mean all in.

That entire summer, my life revolved around manifesting him. I was consuming content constantly. I read Neville. I listened to lectures. I watched YouTube videos like it was my full-time job. I read success stories on Reddit constantly because they made me believe it was possible. I downloaded SP workbooks. I did meditations in the morning where I reminded myself I was God, the operant power, the creator of my reality. I danced in the mornings because music helps me shift my state. I visualized engagement. I had inner conversations. I acted as if. I listened to affirmations while sleeping. I did self-concept work. I did every single thing I could find.

And to be fair, there was movement.

I started all of this in early June, and by the end of July, after a period of no contact, my SP reached out. He told me he was moving across the country, but he wanted to see me before he left. I obviously spiraled a little because now I was like, okay, how do I manifest on a time crunch, how do I stop him from leaving, how do I fix this. But we spent that week together, and it was honestly beautiful. It was so clear that we still loved each other. Neither of us was really saying it outright, and we weren’t back together, but it was there.

Then he still moved away.

At our last dinner together, I even told him, and I still laugh thinking about this, you don’t know this yet, but I’m your wife, and one day you will. He smiled like the polite gentleman he is, and then he moved away.

After that, we went no contact for three and a half months.

And those three and a half months were brutal. I doubled down even more. I found another coach. I did more self-concept work. I listened to affirmation tapes at night. I had inner conversations constantly. I visualized him being in my apartment, in my bed, in my life. I felt both his presence and the lack of his presence at the same time. I was trying so hard. And if I’m being really honest, I was driving myself insane.

My friends started telling me I was obsessed and needed to let it go. That I had become kind of reclusive. That I was making myself miserable. And they weren’t wrong. I just wasn’t willing to stop, because something in me knew this person mattered deeply.

The week before my birthday, I went back to the temple. I was crying again just like I had been at the beginning of the summer, and I said something like: you showed me the way once. I know there is something here. I know this is real. But something is not clicking. Please show me the way forward.

And this is when everything changed.

Shortly after that, I found the coach I still work with today. She taught me what the Law of Assumption actually is. Not content-level understanding. Not surface-level “do this technique and get this thing.” I mean a real understanding of what manifestation actually is.

She said one sentence that changed my life:

You manifest who you are, and you cannot stop that process.

That sentence changed everything for me.

Up until that point, I thought manifestation meant doing techniques to make something happen. Like applying some external force, or using enough tools, or doing enough visualizing, affirming, acting as if, or whatever else to create the future I wanted.

But the Law is actually much simpler than that.

The Law of Assumption is not about learning some brand new magic tool. It’s about understanding what you are already doing that manifests your life. You are manifesting constantly. You cannot stop that process. Your beliefs, your expectations, your state of being, what you believe is true for you, what feels normal and natural to you, what you assume about your future, that is what is shaping your reality all the time.

And when I really saw that, I couldn’t unsee it.

Because if you are manifesting anyway, then you are manifesting anyway. Even when you are spiraling. Even when you are doubting. Even when you think you’ve given up. You are still manifesting. Which means you can’t keep turning a blind eye to what you are actually assuming to be true for you.

That was the shift.

I stopped trying to make something happen and started understanding the process by which I had been creating my life this whole time. And once I understood that, I could finally use that same process in my favor.

So I dropped almost everything I had been doing.

No more obsessive inner conversations. No more trying to act as if in some forced, weird way. No more micromanaging the 3D. No more trying to manipulate reality into changing. No more making it all about him.

That part was huge.

Because the biggest shift for me was that I stopped making it about him and started making it about me.

I realized that manifestation always happens from your perspective. So instead of obsessing over whether he was coming back, what he was doing, what he was thinking, whether he missed me, whether it was working, I started focusing on my actual desire.

And my actual desire was not just “this specific person.”

My actual desire was to be in the happiest, safest, most loving relationship of my life. To be with my soulmate. To feel secure, adored, chosen, peaceful. To be a happy partner. To be a happy wife. He represented that for me, and deep down I still knew he was my person, but I stopped making the work about controlling him and started making it about becoming the version of me who was already living that reality.

My SATS changed completely too.

Instead of doing elaborate scenes or trying to force visualizations, I would just close my eyes and feel into the life I wanted. What does it feel like to live with the person you love? What does it feel like to be a happy wife? What does it feel like to feel deeply safe and secure in your relationship?

And importantly, this was not me pretending it was already here in the 3D. That’s another big thing that clicked for me. It wasn’t about pretending I was married right now. It wasn’t about delusion. It was about inner knowing. It was about knowing that this future was mine. Not one day maybe, not distant and abstract, but real, close, imminent. Like I could almost taste it.

The best analogy I have is ordering something online. Once you’ve checked out, you know it’s coming. You don’t keep asking if the order is real. You don’t sit there spiraling about whether it exists. You know it’s booked. You know it’s done. You know it’s on its way.

That’s how it started to feel for me.

I knew what I was manifesting. I knew the future that was mine. I didn’t need to check the 3D every five seconds asking, is it working, is it happening, where is it, why isn’t it here yet. Because when something feels like the natural outcome, you don’t interrogate it constantly. You just know.

So when thoughts about the future came up, I would return to that knowing. Oh yeah, that’s what’s going to happen for me. I know what’s booked for me. I know where this is going. And then I would live my life.

I think that’s also where people talk about “detachment,” but to me it wasn’t detachment in the sense of not caring. I cared deeply. It was more that it became so natural and so expected that I stopped obsessing. It was like, of course that’s what’s going to happen. Duh. And because of that, I could actually enjoy my life again.

That became my state.

I would journal. I would do Faster EFT to move emotions and clear what was in the way if I noticed fear, grief, lack, old memories, or resistance. I would do short SATS and keep returning to the feeling of the end until it felt natural and normal for me. And then I would go live my life. Fully. Presently. Happily. Not because I had “given up,” but because I knew what was coming.

Within five weeks of that shift, he was back.

Not only was he back, but he told me I was the love of his life, that he had made a mistake, and that he wanted to get married to me. Nine months later, we got engaged. And now we’re getting married in ten months.

But the biggest thing is that this wasn’t just a one-time manifestation.

This changed my life because it changed the way I live. It moved me out of victimhood. It taught me that life is happening through me, not to me. It taught me to stop entertaining futures I don’t want. It taught me that my state of being matters. It taught me to stop making my life about fear and start making it about what I actually desire.

And that’s why I’ve been able to keep this relationship too. Because this became a lifestyle, not a one-time technique.

Everyone talks about techniques, but not enough people talk about what actually keeps your manifestation stable in your day to day life, and that’s mindfulness.

When we talk about manifesting, the work is actually very simple. You assume your desire. That means you decide that what you want is booked and done for you. You’ve already selected that version of the future, and you trust that it’s going to unfold, because the future only exists in your mind anyway. So in SATS or in imagination, you tap into the version of you who already has it. You feel into that reality, you feel what it feels like to be that version of yourself, and then in your day to day life, you move with a quiet knowing of “this is what’s happening for me.” Living in the end is not walking around pretending something is physically here when it’s not. It’s an inner certainty. It’s knowing how this ends and not switching out of that.

Where most people go wrong is not the imagining part, it’s what happens after. They feel it in imagination, they come out of it, and then they spend the rest of their day in lack. They start questioning, analyzing, checking the 3D, spiraling into all the reasons it won’t happen. The moment you do that, you’ve assumed a different end. You’ve decided that a different version of the future is more real for you, and that’s what you keep experiencing. So the real work is not constantly repeating techniques, it’s not going into lack. And the easiest, most natural way to not go into lack is to be present.

Mindfulness is simply being fully present in your life. When you’re in the shower, you’re actually in the shower, feeling the water, enjoying it. When you’re eating, you’re tasting your food instead of being in your head. When you’re working, you’re doing your work instead of mentally living in ten different scenarios. You’re just here. And when you’re fully present, it becomes very hard to spiral into “where is it, why isn’t it here yet, what are they thinking.” You’re not constantly leaving your life to go into your mind and create lack. You’re just living.

And this is where it becomes powerful in relationships specifically. As things start unfolding, as your SP comes back, as communication picks up, most people ruin it by overthinking every little thing. What did that text mean, why did they say that, are they pulling away. But if you’re mindful, you’re actually present with them. You’re enjoying the conversation, enjoying the time together, enjoying your own life. You’re not creating problems that don’t exist. You’re letting things unfold naturally while staying rooted in “this is working out for me.”

This is honestly what made the big difference for me. There was a point where I just became very present in my life. I was enjoying my days, enjoying my alone time, enjoying the unfolding of everything instead of constantly checking where I was. And that did two things. It kept me out of lack, and it allowed me to actually experience what I was manifesting in a way that felt real and fulfilling. I got to savor the last moments of being single, I got to enjoy the transition, and I wasn’t mentally rushing to the end or questioning it every second.

If you want something that actually stabilizes your manifestation, focus less on doing more techniques and more on how you’re living your life. Be present. Enjoy what’s in front of you. Let the end be decided, and then stop interfering with it by constantly checking and doubting. That’s the real shift.

Everyone talks about techniques, but not enough people talk about what actually keeps your manifestation stable in your day to day life, and that’s mindfulness.

When we talk about manifesting, the work is actually very simple. You assume your desire. That means you decide that what you want is booked and done for you. You’ve already selected that version of the future, and you trust that it’s going to unfold, because the future only exists in your mind anyway. So in imagination, you tap into the version of you who already has it. You feel into that reality, you feel what it feels like to be that version of yourself, and then in your day to day life, you move with a quiet knowing of “this is what’s happening for me.” Living in the end is not pretending something is physically here when it’s not. It’s an inner certainty. It’s knowing how this ends and not switching out of that.

Where most people go wrong is not the imagining part, it’s what happens after. They do the visualization, they feel it, and then they spend the rest of their day in lack. They start questioning, overthinking, checking for signs, and mentally going into all the reasons it might not work out. The moment you do that, you’ve assumed a different end. You’ve decided that a different version of the future is more real for you, and that’s what you keep reinforcing. So the real work is not constantly doing more, it’s not going into lack. And the easiest, most natural way to not go into lack is to be present.

Mindfulness is simply being fully present in your life. When you’re in the shower, you’re actually in the shower, feeling the water, enjoying it. When you’re eating, you’re tasting your food instead of being in your head. When you’re working, you’re doing your work instead of mentally living in ten different scenarios. You’re just here. And when you’re fully present, it becomes very hard to spiral into “where is it, when will it happen, what if it doesn’t.” You’re not constantly leaving your life to go into your mind and create lack. You’re just living.

Think about it in terms of something like manifesting a new job with better pay. You’ve applied, maybe you’ve had the interview, and then what most people do is spend the next few days obsessing. Did they like me, did I say the wrong thing, have they seen my application yet, what if I don’t get it. That’s you constantly shifting into lack. But if you’re mindful, you do the application, you show up fully present in the interview, which already makes you come across better, and then you go back to your life. You trust that it’s done, and you stop interfering with it. You’re not checking your email every five minutes or replaying the interview in your head. You’re just living your life, and that’s what keeps your assumption intact.

Same thing if you’re waiting to get into a school or a program. You’re present while you’re writing your applications, you’re actually thinking through your answers instead of being in fear about the outcome. Then once it’s submitted, you go back to being present in your life. You enjoy your current situation, your last few months of college, your current job, whatever it is. You’re not rushing ahead mentally or stressing about what hasn’t happened yet. And ironically, that’s what allows everything to unfold more smoothly, because you’re not constantly undoing your own assumption.

This is honestly one of the biggest shifts you can make. When you’re present, you stay out of lack. You stop overanalyzing, you stop trying to control every step, and you actually allow things to come together. And on top of that, you get to enjoy your life while it’s happening. You’re not waiting for something in the future to finally feel good. You’re already there, and everything else just meets you in that state.