Context: I (F23) think I’m aroace spec, felt this way for a loonng time. I could be completely happy in life with purely platonic relationships! As of recent I’ve been pondering maybe if a QPR is the right path for me, as despite not really wanting a stereotypical relationship (that scares me ngl) I DOO want someone where we equally prioritize each other in the way allos have with their partner. I tried putting qpr as an intention for dating apps but my steady stream of likes cut to zero. and some current matches unmatched. so.
But maybe I don’t even want a QPR? Because I think there are some aspects of a relationship I could be okay with depending on our connection, so I don’t want to “scare them away” for lack of a better phrase.
Question: how have other aroace spec people navigated dating apps? how do I state my intentions when I’m not even sure myself?