So, a little bit of backstory first. I met this man on discord, long distance, we met when I was 17 and he was 21ish, and started dating when I was 19 and he was 23. In total, we ended up being together for 4 years.
After being together long distance for about 4 years with 3-4 visits in there, we decided to move in together. I was gonna move in with him, and I was actually starting the process of that when I left him. Our entire relationship, I sung his praises and just thought he was the best person ever. Yeah, we definitely had our issues pretty early on, but they were minor and he was so good in all the other ways (obviously now I know better).
So, I am flying down to his state to move in with him. There is a few months before I can actually get all of my things, but it's finally happening!!! And then it all goes to shit
After about 2 months of being down there, I start noticing things. Like the sister he told me all this shit about before I even met her, was WAY different than he had made her out to be. And there were lots of things I was finding out he had lied about.
He randomly dropped on me one day that he had a pregnancy scare with this sugar daddy he was "seeing", and I knew none of that at all and it had happened a year prior.
Same with a visit that had happened with his "best friend" where he took her on EXACTLY the same date as me but didn't even tell me he had met her in person.
So, after I start learning all of these things and my frustration about him not being willing to talk starts to build, I tell him I need space and I will be back in my state until future notice. That things aren't what I thought and I need to think. Things get worse there, and I had to leave even sooner because of how he got.
I started seeing yelling and aggression that I had never seen before, and he was even verbally cruel to me at times. He told me I have a "victim complex" and that's why he refused to talk to me about anything (that I had been bringing up for 1 year+).
In the end, I ended up just blocking him once me and all my things were home, and getting tf out of there. It took me months to decide, but by god finding out you were cheated on by a pregnancy scare after the fact is insane enough. BUT he also had the gall to make me take a bus to a nearby city at midnight (in a city I didn't know, in a state I barely knew) to get my flight home, so atp I knew it was over LMAO.
SO GLAD I did NOT marry that man haha