Looking for insight / breakup tips please help.
First of all I would like to share my story. I have been dating this girl for 2 years everything seemed excellent.until few months ago where things started to go south. We have had a couple of arguments starting from nothing and ends up her packing her things and leave. Before the final break up we met and we both agreed that past trauma took over. We both agreed that we should see a therapist. I started seeing one and she never did.
few days after we got in another fight similar to the last fights , something small that turned to a heated and hurtful fight and from both sides.
I have given her space for few days , usually when we calm down we talk and we get back together. This time when I asked to see her , her response was I quote what for ? I have tried several times to explain that I have really self reflected this time and I could understand the pattern of the fighting. She insisted this time on No. What actually hurt even more that few days before the break up , she was feeding how excited about us she is and how she really wants to marry me and have kids. That was 3 days before the break up.
I have tried many times to tell her that I really want us to try this last time specially that I have been seeing the therapist for a while now and I feel I am making progress with my self . Her answer was either cold, hurtful or ignored completely and I end-up getting hurt even more.
Last week she texted me about something that she forgot at mine which I sent her , she started a normal conversation and we started talking again for few days, giving me hope by telling me where she was and what she have been up to without me even asking and then she dropped we are a at a better place right now we can be friends , like seriously ? Its not even been 2 weeks since broke up and you want already to be friend , so I started to take my distance a She even got upset when I did not answer her messages on the spot.
At that point I have explained again that I’m not happy with the friendship dynamic thing and I don’t thing I can do it right now if you want us to start again all over with friendship and move slowly back I’m happy to do so but if you are really wanting friendship I have to take my distance. She said that she understands and she will give me my space. Another hurtful point.
Since I blocked her everywhere an been on no contact for 5 days. It’s been extremely hard for me. There is days where I feel ok but when I’m home alone , I see her every where since I bought this apartment just week when we started being together , so moving out is not an option for me.
- Can anyone analyse this ? My friends will never say what they really think because they don’t want to hurt me , that’s why I’m looking at strangers feedback.
- how long this pain will last for?
- I have a constant craving on checking her online status and it became an obsession since I also know that she is checking mine too.
- any help reducing my stress and anxiety please , help
- why I believe this is difficult and different from past relationships? Past relationships mainly break up due to big issues.cheating , lying or things that there is no turning back. It’s very hard to accept that she dropped the whole 2 years and years of future plans because of this.