AITA / Am I Being A Shitty friend?
am I a bad friend? A friend of mine has recently started drinking, vaping, and sh-ing. All of those very loudly / noticeable to people. Before that they were like an angel-ish. Never once having had a sip of alcohol before. Now, with the bandaids on everyday, and reposting depressed tiktoks, people started to notice how they’re doing mentally. One classmate took me aside and told me that we’d need to help her and stuff because of the fact that the friend went from super energetic to drained and tired all the time. Only thing is that talking about mental health in that way triggered me kind of. I didn’t think it would but the fact that the classmate noticed and ‘cares’ so much, when I went through the exact same things for years with no one noticing, really hit and hurt me deeply. So I don’t think I’d even be in a position to ‘want’ to offer them help? If that makes sense. Like obviously I want my friend to get better but I don’t want them getting better / the help they need to be my problem, especially when they’re cutting me off from everything and being mean and un-empathetic towards me. Does that make me a bad friend? And how can I tell that classmate that I don’t want to talk / help about the friend’s mental issues.