Trying to Understands her behaviour
I had a 3-year relationship with a girl. Initially, there was an issue from my family's side — they weren't agreeing to it, and a lot of marriage proposals were coming for her. I kept trying to convince my family, but they wouldn't agree, and because of this, she and I would fight every day. In the meantime, her engagement got fixed somewhere else — just a verbal 'yes' (haan), no formal engagement or nikkah yet.
During the 7 months that we didn't talk, I moved to Austria first, and then to Germany, trying to forget about her. I had almost moved on with my life. Then she told me her family was still looking for proposals for her, so in the meantime I talked to my family again and convinced them. But when we sent our proposal, she now says she can't talk to her father about refusing that other place where the 'yes' had been given, because he's a blood pressure patient and she's afraid something might happen to him.
Now I don't understand whether the girl is doing this on purpose or if it's genuinely like that... because after those 7 months, when we started talking again, she gave me some signals that made me feel like she's just using her father as an excuse. One day she said that if we got married, there would be no curiosity left because we already know everything about each other. Then another day she said that Pathans (I am Pathan) marry multiple times — her brother's friends are like that — and her brother had said something like that too. On top of this, she herself called me back, asking me to return. But now that they [her family] refused, I told her, 'You're the one who asked me to come back — send the proposal, I'll convince my family no matter what.' To this she says, 'I never said that, you came back on your own.'
I want suggestions — what do you all think about this — was it really a family issue, or is the girl just playing with me?