Seeking advice to whether I'm doing something wrong, or not doing something I should
So I've been a long-time lurker, and the whole being single is starting to get to me slightly.
I've always been pretty contempt with being single and never really been in a relationship, but I'm now nearing 28 and I'm starting to wonder if I'm doing something wrong, or just not doing something of which I should be, in order to gain attraction.
To introduce myself:
I [27M] am an undergraduate studying something people tell me is difficult (and don't get me wrong, I find it difficult as well lol), although I tend to think most studies or activities are difficult, with the only factor making something easier is whether it's of interest to yourself. Basically, me not being all to confident in myself, I tend to downplay said studies.
I'm the type to not be particularly picky about social circles, people, or beliefs, and generally open to anyone, given they can tolerate people around me and, well, me.
I'm rather introverted, however, and do find socials somewhat difficult despite enjoying and trying to partake in different social activities. Hence, I don't speak up too often unless I feel like I have something meaningful to add. At least until I'm comfortable, then my dark and probably sometimes over-the-line humor may appear...
My looks in general, I'd say, are average at best, but by no means bad... Although, I'd guess not most girls'/women's style. I also wouldn't call myself lean, but by no means obese or either. I dress alternatively/soft alternatively: wear chains, rings, and earrings, along baggy clothes and tattoos.
I've tried Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble, but I'm just not very photogenic lol. I have a few lucky pictures here and there, but they are somewhat far in between.
Most of my experiences on dating those dating apps have been rather dry (Which I've heard is pretty standard for men?), but with a lucky match once or twice in a fortnight. Those matches would tend to dry up after a little while, though, either from lack of answer or because of... Lack of interest? I at least always make sure to toss a polite message to learn who I match with, but with a varying degree of responses.
Looking away from dating apps. Despite feeling it extremely nerve-wracking to ask someone face-to-face, especially because I actually hate attention in public, I have tried approaching someone once in a while, but never really gotten any positive reply (Not belittled or anything, just a polite no or not interested in sharing contact).
I by no means ask or swipe on just anyone, and won't deny that I have a typical type I find particularly of interest, but never limit interest to this one type. My only requirements is really whether I find them cute and/or interesting.
So...
With that 'short' introduction, I'd really love to hear if anyone (girls/women in particular, seeing as I'm straight, but open to any and all advice) see any tendencies or poor traits in my person, of which may cause my in-attraction? Un-attraction?
I know it's difficult to really give any exact advice purely based on text-based personal description, but again, any and all advice is welcome.
Considering my lack of experience, it may be that I'm just idealizing being in a relationship, but I do feel like it'd be nice to have some companionship...
As written in my tinder bio lol:
"The stereotypical awkward engineering
undergrad looking for a cute girl to
kiss and hug after a long day, and enjoy
the occasional events and concerts with
🫠"
(If you made it all the way down here,
I thank thee for taking your time! The
post got much longer than I initially
intended lol, but if you have any
comments, I'll be there asap!)
~~ Mel Anden ~~