I guess its a vent

Im so confused about my health. I dont know whats wrong with me. I feel broken, a black sheep, I never fit in, I never get to experience anything good in my life. It's all been trauma and abuse.

I also have hypermobility and other problems but I just feel like a failure and broken. I've done lots of meds, I've done years of talk therapy. It all goes nowhere. Im always feeling broken and cant enjoy life that im a failure and loser and wasted my life. Im 37.

Why cant i just be happy. I feel like no one taught me how to live and dont know how to figure it out. I dont know how to cook its so overwhelming. I suck at basically everything and feel guilty that i suck at everything.

I accomplished some small things in my life but it feels like nothing. I feel tired and depressed all the time, unmotivated and overwhelmed. I try so hard everyday and I dont even want to try anymore.

Now im a mom and feel sorry for my boy who is 3 because his mom is a loser and has nothing to leave to him, nothing to show for him. It doesnt help that my in-laws told me several times I do nothing for the family I have no roll or purpose.

I get up everyday and take care of my son, keep our schedule for the home and appointments, I've moved countries, learned a new language, I have a degree in graphic design, i worked full-time since I was 14. I managed 21 stores across my old country and would fly around.

Now im just a mom who doesnt work, doesnt have a purpose, does nothing for the family. Im lost in a country i dont understand. I feel so unhealthy, I have no connection to my partner emotionally, all we do is fight because im empathetic and my feelings are dismissed or treated like im an annoyance. I dont know if I even love my partner anymore. We cant get into couples therapy because theres a shortage here. I have no family or friends in this country. My partner and his family are narcissistic (diagnosed and self proclaimed).

It hurts seeing people have such fulfilling lives and succeeding. I truly do get happy with others success and then I come back to my life and feel empty and then guilty for feeling this way and not just being happy with what I have.

Im hurting and lost and dont know how to live like a normal person. Im tired of latching onto hyperfixations just to feel something for a while. I dont know what I want from this post I just have no where to turn. Maybe someone out there feels like I do.

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u/Jettblackink — 2 days ago
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Advice needed + sharing spreads

As a hobonichi noob, I started my first week's spring start in june, and my a5 avec yesterday! Im looking for suggestions for some black pens that wont overload the page absorbency. As well as where does everyone get their stickers that can ship to eu? Im a 🇨🇦 living in 🇩🇪 so my hobos are very therapeutic for me and im so emotionally attached already!

However, Im all confused on what to use each hobo for. I really need a journal so im using my cousin/avec daily pages for this. However I also need to track tasks and appointments and was expecting to use my weeks for this, but my cousin vertical weekly just has more space.

I guess its bugging me that I have my journal and tasks in one book. Im also needing to track my mental and physical health and dont know where to put this? My weeks has my appointments but also I was using the horizontal weeks as a daily recap and now it all seems confusing and redundant.

Sorry im rambling now but there's a few photos for examples! Any suggestions or advice is welcome thank you!

u/Jettblackink — 4 days ago

What pest is this on a baby prayer plant

Sorry my phone camera is not that advanced. The plant is struggling with crispy leaves and it was a bit root bound so i repotted it. But then today i saw these only in this one leaf that was unfolding. Are these thrips? Am i screwed? I had it in my house for 2 days then saw them. I took it outside and used a vinegar dishsoap water solution because i have nothing else. I washed it all and clipped some leaves..... I got this baby for 50 cents ugh I looked but didnt see anything until today. I kept the plant outsode now but do you think they already spread to my other plants? I only have a golden pothos nearby but i dont see anything on it, wpuld i be ablw to see them if they have already spread? What should i do? Chuck the prayer plant? Im terrified of thrips.

Located: outside north window balcony, north germany

Age: tiny baby only a few days owned

Potted: repotted because it was struggling in orchid mix with lava stone and regular soil mixed. In a drainage pot

u/Jettblackink — 1 month ago