u/Jewl4u26

My tenant is supposed to be out 5/30 but I went by the property the other day and no evidence of packing. It's a 2k sqft townhouse. They said they have another place and plan to be out on time but I am worried he is going to be moving out a few days past the lease period. His kid gets out of school on the 29th so it will be a lot for them to move during her year end but that is not my problem, I gave them 90 days to prepare. I have the property being painted on June 1st and it's going up for sale June 8th. I already served the notice to vacate making it clear that there will be no hold over period.

Should I do the walk through a week before on May 23rd or should I do it on May 30th? At what point would you start freaking out that a tenant isn't moving out on time?

Hey there hoping someone can help me out. I have a Roland TD27K2 electric drum kit. I want my spouse to hear me play with the song/drums sound as opposed to the sound of my sticks hitting rubber tires 😁

What is the best way to accomplish setting up two headphones (playing in stereo) to my eKit?

Thank you 🙏

My brother and I generally have a good relationship, but things are complicated with his wife and kids. His wife can come across as brash and controlling, especially around money and gifts.

I do well financially now, but I didn’t always. I used to live paycheck to paycheck and worked hard to build stability through investing and taking risks. I’ve also been generous with my brother, including giving him and his wife $5,000 years ago for a house. Still, it sometimes feels like anything less than a large gesture is met with quiet disappointment. No one says it directly, but there’s an expectation I can sense.

I don’t have a close relationship with the kids since we live on opposite sides of the country and only see each other about once a year. On FaceTime, my nephew is polite but mostly disengaged and focused on video games, giving short answers when I ask about his life. I understand that may just be typical at his age.

I spent about $800 on gifts for my brother’s family, more than I spent on my own wife. I also sent $200 Visa gift cards for the kids. A few days before Christmas, my brother said they hadn’t gotten me anything and asked what I wanted. I said nothing, though even a simple card would have meant a lot.

I learned the kids never actually received the gift cards. When I asked what they used them for, they seemed confused. My brother said the money went toward a baseball bat, and my nephew already has several expensive ones. It felt like my contribution was absorbed without acknowledgment or connection back to me.

It’s not really about the amount, but about feeling acknowledged and appreciated.

Now my nephew’s birthday is tomorrow and I haven’t done anything yet. I feel guilty, but also frustrated and unsure what to do. Should I call, send something last minute, or step back?

Since they told me the kids don’t have a concept of money I tried sending a small book about money for the kids, hoping it might be helpful, but I realize that may have come across as criticism, even though that wasn’t my intent.

At this point I feel stuck. I feel unappreciated and yunsure how to handle gifts and expectations going forward.

Any advice is appreciated.