r/AITApod

My birthday was Thursday. My MIL got me a stand mixer which was genuinely a nice gift, I could tell she put thought into it. Then right after I opened it she goes "well now you have no excuse not to host Thanksgiving" and the table went quiet.

I laughed it off because what else are you going to do but then Friday morning she sent a group text to like 12 people saying Thanksgiving is at our place this year and to let her know what sides they're bringing.

We live in a 2 bedroom apartment. The kitchen fits maybe 2 people if one of them stands sideways. We've been married 6 years and I've never hosted anything, not once. My contribution every year is a store-bought pie, and I'll own that. My MIL has done Thanksgiving at her house every year since we got married. Her place actually has a dining room and a full kitchen and enough chairs for 14 people.

I texted her saying I never agreed to this. She just said it's already done everyone's excited, basically daring me to cancel on everyone.

Friday night my husband admitted she'd brought this up to him weeks before my birthday, and the mixer was bought specifically so I couldn't say I don't have the right equipment. So the whole thing was planned before I even opened the box.

Saturday I drove over and gave the mixer back. I told her thank you but I can't accept something that was bought with that kind of condition on it.

She was crying when I left. When I got home I replied to the group text saying we won't be hosting and that I never agreed to it in the first place. By that evening she'd called his whole side of the family saying I threw it back in her face.

my husband told me the part he'd left out. This is the first Thanksgiving since my FIL passed in March, and his mom can't face sitting at that table without him. That's why she wanted it moved. Now she's saying she isn't doing Thanksgiving at all if it's not at our place.

He knew all of this for weeks and let me walk right into it.

He says I could have given her this one year. I keep thinking that she could have just asked.

AITA?

I’m a 25-year-old guy, and my girlfriend is 24. We’ve been together for almost two years. Last weekend, we had plans to visit my parents for dinner. It wasn’t a huge event, but my parents had specifically planned the evening around us coming over. My girlfriend knew about it for over a week. A few hours before we were supposed to leave, she told me she didn’t feel like going anymore because she was tired and wanted to stay home. I was disappointed, but I told her that was fine and that I’d go by myself. Then she asked me to tell my parents that I had gotten called into work unexpectedly because she didn’t want them thinking she was rude or unreliable. I told her I wasn’t comfortable lying about it. She got annoyed and said it was just a small excuse and that I was making it into a bigger deal than it needed to be. I ended up telling my parents the truth without giving them all the details basically that she wasn’t feeling up to coming and I would still be there. She found out what I said and was really upset. She said I embarrassed her and made her look bad in front of my family. I told her I didn’t think I should have to lie just to protect her from the consequences of cancelling plans. Now she says I should have had her back, even if I disagreed with her decision.

AITA?

I (32M) have been married to my wife (31F) for four years. We both worked full-time and split most household chores pretty evenly. three months ago, my wife left her job because she was unhappy there. We talked about it beforehand, and I supported her decision. She has been looking for something new, but hasn't found anything yet. since she stopped working, I've taken on more of the household expenses because my income is currently our only income. I don't mind that part, and we agreed she'd handle more things around the house while she's between jobs. the problem is that recently I've been coming home to dishes in the sink, laundry sitting around, and dinner not being made. When I bring it up, she says she's still stressed about not having a job and doesn't want to spend her entire day doing chores. last week, I asked if we could divide things differently until she finds work. She suggested that I continue doing my usual share of the chores while she focuses on job applications. I told her I thought that was unfair because I'm now working full-time and covering essentially all of our expenses, while she has more flexibility during the day she said I was acting like earning money was more valuable than everything else she contributes to the marriage. that wasn't my intention. I told her I don't expect her to become a full-time housekeeper, but I also don't think it's reasonable for everything to stay exactly 50/50 when our circumstances have changed she thinks I'm punishing her for being unemployed. I think we're both supposed to adjust when one person's workload changes.

AITA for expecting my wife to take on more household responsibilities while she's unemployed?

My sister stayed at my apartment for a weekend while I was out of town. I told her she could use the place, watch TV, cook, whatever.

I got home Sunday night and immediately noticed most of the food I’d bought for the week was gone. Not snacks either. Steaks, chicken, a whole pack of salmon, drinks, pretty much everything.

Turns out she invited six people over Saturday night and cooked dinner for everyone.

I asked why she didn’t just order food and she said there was already plenty here so she didn’t see the point in spending money.

That annoyed me because I’d been trying to budget groceries better and had bought all of it specifically to last me through the week.

I sent her a request for $94, which was roughly what I figured she used. She called me cheap and said I was treating her like an Airbnb guest over “some groceries.”

My mom thinks asking for the full amount is petty because my sister was doing me a favor by staying there and “keeping an eye on the place.” I never asked her to house sit though. She asked to stay because she had plans nearby.

AITA for asking her to pay me back?

I (29M) have been married to my wife (28F) for three years. We normally get along well, but we’ve been arguing about something pretty small that has turned into a bigger issue. a few weeks ago, I made plans with two of my close friends to go to a concert. My wife knew about it and said she was fine with it. She had her own plans that evening with her sister, so neither of us expected to spend the night together. The day before the concert, her plans got cancelled. She told me she wanted me to stay home with her instead because she didn't want to spend the evening alone. I told her I understood, but I still wanted to go since I'd already made the plans and hadn't seen these friends in a while. I offered to spend the afternoon with her and have dinner together before I left. She got upset and said that if I really wanted to spend time with her, I would cancel the concert. She also said she would do the same for me if our situations were reversed. I told her that's exactly what bothers me. I don't expect her to cancel her plans whenever mine change, and I don't think marriage means we have to automatically give up our plans whenever the other person becomes available. She ended up saying I was choosing my friends over my wife and barely spoke to me for the rest of the night. I feel bad that she's disappointed, but I don't think I did anything wrong by keeping plans she already knew about. AITA for refusing to cancel my plans just because my wife's plans fell through?

My friend has been dating his girlfriend for about a year. She had a dog when they met and he always claimed he was severely allergic. Not hospital allergic, but according to him being around dogs for more than a few minutes made his eyes swell up and messed with his breathing.

A few months ago she moved in with him and ended up giving the dog to her sister because of it. She was pretty upset but her sister lives nearby so she can still see him.

Last weekend we were at my place and my dog was all over my friend for probably an hour. Sitting next to him, licking his hands, the whole thing. No reaction at all. I asked him about it when everyone else went outside and he laughed and admitted he isn't allergic. He just hates living with dogs and thought saying that would make him look like an asshole.

Later his girlfriend mentioned how nice it must be that my dog doesn't trigger his allergies. I told her the truth.

She absolutely lost it. Apparently she went home and started packing. My friend called me saying I blew up his relationship over something that wasn't my business. He said the dog is safe with her sister and she can visit whenever she wants, so I created a problem where there wasn't one.

I'd actually been planning a trip with this guy later this year, so this is probably going to screw that up too, but I can't see how I was supposed to sit there and play along with that lie.

AITA?