r/AITApod

My brother is 34 and has been married to my SIL, 31, for almost 3 years.

Years before he met her, he was VERY vocal about never wanting kids and got a vasectomy at 26. Everyone in our immediate family knew. When they started dating, I asked him about it once because she had always wanted kids. He told me he got it reversed and basically told me to mind my business.

So I did.

Last weekend we had dinner at my parents house and my SIL started crying at the table. Apparently they have been trying for a baby for over a year. She has done a bunch of testing, everything looks normal, and she said she feels like her body is failing her. She mentioned they had even started saving money in case they needed IVF.

I looked at him and he would not look back at me.

After dinner I cornered him outside and asked if he actually had the reversal.

He said no.

I genuinely thought he was joking at first.

He said he loves her and didn't want to lose her over the kids issue, and figured after a few years of trying she would eventually accept that it "just wasn't meant to happen." He actually said it would be easier for her to accept infertility than him telling her he still doesn't want children.

I told him that was fucking horrible and he needed to tell her immediately.

He told me this was between him and his wife and if I said anything I'd be destroying his marriage.

The next morning I called her and told her.

She packed a bag and is currently staying with her sister. My brother has called me basically every name possible and my parents are furious too. They agree what he did was wrong but think I should have given him time to tell her himself instead of dropping a grenade into their marriage.

She thanked me, but my brother keeps saying I betrayed him and took away his chance to explain.

AITA?

Last night I found adult videos in my fiancés browser an asked him why he was watching it again, we had previously talked about how we thought it was cheating and last year the exact same thing happened. I came into the room only 5 minutes into my grocery run cause I forgot my wallet and he was watching it. I felt so betrayed and jealous and it really took a toll on my mental heath and self esteem. He promised to never do it again and last night I went through his phone cause he stopped being intimate with me and I found the adult videos. He claimed at first he didn’t do it but I told him who else could have done it on his phone, and I showed him the website link in his history and he started saying I sounded psycho because I told him that I felt betrayed and he knows how much it hurts me and he still did it. He kept going back to sleep while I was crying about it, and he kept calling me names because I said it was disgusting. Am I overreacting if I said it was disgusting and woke him up? Any advice on how to get over something like this? Also to make it clear we both said it would be cheating to watch stuff like that and he still did it.

TL:DR fiancé watched adult videos, lies about it when confronted, soon confesses and dismisses my feelings and name calls me .

My situ/GF who is seeing orher guys, and told me as much the day before in a whole argument, wrecked her car coming to see me after a night out drinking.

Cussed my out the days after, made it out to be my fault why it all happened, then told me one of her guys she's "cool with" sent money to fix it, but weeks later it is still at her place, not a thing has been touched.

She is probably running the same game with them as she's trying to with me, and I said that which incensed her further, lmao.

AITA for not caring and not helping her? I'm not contributing along with Lord knows who else to the Go-Fund-a-Bi!@#.

Am I the A$$H...?

Comments are welcome please.

I was at a friends birthday at a bar this weekend and there were maybe 10 of us, some people I knew and some I didn’t.

One guy there kept finding reasons to talk to me all night. Asking if I was seeing anyone, telling me I looked familiar, offering to get my drinks, eventually asked for my Instagram. I assumed he was single because he was being pretty obvious about it.

Later this girl came over and said you know he has a girlfriend right? in a really nasty tone. I said no, I actually didn’t. She goes well now you do, so maybe back off.

Turns out she was the girlfriend.

That annoyed me because I hadn’t approached him once, so I said maybe you should tell your boyfriend that because he’s the one who asked if I was single and asked for my Instagram.

Her whole expression changed and she asked what else he said, so I told her basically everything, including that he offered to buy me drinks. He immediately started saying I was exaggerating and that he was just being friendly.

It turned into this super awkward argument in front of everyone and they ended up leaving separately.

A couple people said I could've just apologized and left it alone instead of embarrassing her in front of the group.

I do feel kinda bad because she looked crushed once I told her.

AITA for outing him right there instead of just letting her think I was the problem?

My roommate had this old air fryer with a damaged cord near the plug. I pointed it out to him a few times because the cord would get really hot and once I even smelled something like burning plastic while he was using it.

He kept saying it was fine and that he’d replace it eventually.

Last weekend he left town and left it plugged in on the kitchen counter. I went to make coffee and noticed the plug area was warm even though it wasn’t running. That freaked me out, so I unplugged it and ended up throwing it out because I genuinely thought it was becoming a fire hazard.

When he got back he was furious. Apparently his dad gave it to him when he first moved out, so there was some sentimental value I didn’t know about. Now he wants me to replace it.

I do have some money saved, so I could technically do that, but I also warned him multiple times and I feel like it was getting genuinely unsafe.

I know it still wasn’t mine to throw away. AITA for refusing to replace it?

My close girlfriend (we’re both early 40s/F) is currently on a eurotrip. Love the girl to death, but she can’t dress for shit. Not only does she have a great body that she doesn’t know how to dress for, she rarely (if ever) nails the aesthetic of the event vibe. Not a big deal either way - it just is what it is.

Fast forward to the present: she’s posting fabulous IG stories on her trip, and my jaw dropped. Each day she is absolutely wowing me with her fashion. The style choices are top tier in every regard. I am so impressed and proud! She’s totally in her element.

I sent her a private DM saying that whoever her stylist is for this vacation needs a bonus because she’s f*cking stunning in her fits. I got a reply the next day from her that thanked me, but she felt that compliment was backhanded and suggested that she doesn’t dress well otherwise.

I hadn’t considered that at the time because to me it was so apparent that she’s hired a stylist, and I wanted to re-enforce that they are doing her justice she deserves! I shared this convo with our other close friend and she stated she also thought it was very apparent she had hired a stylist because in real life, “she dresses terribly.” AITA for giving a backhanded compliment?

So I (20s F) work in health insurance. I haven’t been at my job long, but I’ve developed a pretty good understanding of our rules, processes, and helpful resources. Because of this, I’ve been asked to be what my job refers to as a SME (subject matter expert) and assist other team members in our team chat. (I promise this is relevant)

I was assisting a team member with an issue, and ended up overhearing her handle another call. While she was on that call, I realized she was discussing someone’s PHI (personal health information) without verifying the caller’s identity. I tried to get her attention, but by the time I did, she already disconnected the call. I mentioned it to her and she (very nonchalantly) said “oops, I forgot”.

I wrestled with the decision for a while, but ultimately decided I couldn’t ignore what I witnessed and reported what happened to my supervisor. The problem is, a HIPAA violation can cause her to lose her job and I don’t want to be the reason someone gets fired.

I told my husband what happened and he said I should’ve just ignored it and if the supervisor happened to listen to her call, that would be it. I feel like I did the right thing, but I do feel bad and his response is making me second guess myself. I just need an outside perspective.

So… AITA?

I M14, my friend M15, have been friends since we were 7 (he was 8.) I know he was “bi” and he knows Im completely gay, it’s never came in the way of our friendship until a few months ago…

I can’t remember what month it was but it was either
February or the start of 2026, he started getting clinger with me then he use to be. I mind and kinda liked it, until he started getting jealous… Everytime I talked to one of my other friends he’d look a little upset, probably cause I wasn’t giving him attention. But when I let my other friends touch me, he’d pull me away, not in a way that would hurt me but he’d grab my waist and pull me away. I thought it was a normal touch for friends but he did this a lot and it started getting annoying.

It’s summer break in canada now. We were hanging out at his place to have a sleepover, when we’re alone he’s fine and only touches me a lot. Well we got bored and he suggested we have some of his parents beer, I hesitated but agreed and followed him downstairs. He opened the liquor we cabinet and offered me a bottle, I ended up rejecting it and watched him chug half a bottle. I asked if his parents would find out he said no. I asked if he’s done this before, he said once.

We went back to his room and it was fine for a bit as we watched movie. But a bit later he grabbed my jaw and forced me to kiss him, it was at least five minutes and I kept trying to pull back, When he finally did I got up and left. (We live close.)

I think I actually like him but I don’t know what to do after this. I think it was the alcohol but Ive also been ghosting him. Someone help.

I live on a block of brownstones in Brooklyn. Every couple weeks for the last couple of years, I Will spend 10 to 15 minutes leaf blowing my backyard.
For the first time today, one of the neighbors that our backyard juts up to poked her head out her window to tell me my leaf blower is "obnoxiously loud." To her credit, it totally is! I wear earplugs while using it.
I apologized and explained I try to choose a time when no one is likely sleeping or working, respect the local noise ordinances, and try to keep it quick.
She claimed I'm "not supposed to do this on a Sunday" and asked me to be polite after repeating that it was obnoxiously loud.
I don't want to disturb my neighbors, but also acknowledge | live in a dense urban area where we sometimes will hear each other like this. I don't feel if there is a better time to do this? I typically aim for Saturdays when the neighborhood is more lively anyways, but it doesn't always work out that way. I work during the weekdays so would not be able to then, but also wouldn't feel comfortable making that much noise when people are likely working from home.
AITAH?

So about two Halloweens ago, when my boyfriend and I were still in the talking stage and not officially dating yet, he posted a picture on his Snapchat story of a girl he used to talk to wearing his hat. For context, his brother had gotten him this hat for his birthday a long time ago.

Fast forward to now, we’ve been dating for a while and I’m helping him decorate his room. He wants to hang that hat up on his wall as part of the decor. I told him that seeing it displayed is going to annoy me because I immediately associate it with that girl and the picture he posted of her wearing it. I asked him not to put it up, but he refuses because to him it’s his hat, his brother gave it to him, and it has nothing to do with her.

AITA for being mad that he still wants to hang it up even though he knows it bothers me?

Six of us planned dinner at a pretty expensive restaurant for my friend’s birthday. They require a $40 per person deposit so I booked it on my card and everyone knew the policy beforehand.

Three people canceled about three hours before the reservation. Nothing happened one was tired, one got invited somewhere else and the third didn’t feel like driving across town. I was sitting there on my phone after playing some Jackpot Daily trying to change the reservation but the restaurant wouldn’t adjust it that late, so I lost $120. I sent each of them a $40 Venmo request. Now two think I’m being ridiculous because we didn’t even eat anything. That is literally why the money is gone. AITAH for expecting them to cover it?

I got married in May. Small wedding, 40 people, we paid for all of it ourselves and it took us about 2 years to save for it.

My dad's side of the family didn't come. Not one of them. They all said yes on the RSVP, 9 of them, and then in the 3 weeks before the wedding they dropped out one at a time with various reasons. We had already paid per head for the food. It cost us around 900 dollars for chairs and meals that sat there empty.

I know at least part of it was because my dad's new wife wasn't invited, which was a decision my mom and I made together and which I still stand by.

Anyway. Last month my aunt started talking about doing a "celebration" at my grandmother's house in September so that everyone who missed the wedding could see us and give us their gifts. She's already picked a date. She asked me to send her our registry link again because a few people never got round to it.

I said no. I said I wasn't doing a second version of a day they chose not to come to, and that they were all welcome to visit us any time as normal.

Now I'm apparently punishing my grandmother, who is 88 and did want to come but couldn't travel alone, and who nobody offered to bring.

That last part has genuinely been bothering me. She's the one person in that whole group with an actual reason.

AITA?

My husband had his first girlfriend when he was 17, a senior in high school. During their relationship she had cancer and he was there for her during a lot of the surgeries, treatments, etc. She had some mental health issues in the past, and said he’s the reason she didn’t unalive herself. They dated for 4 1/2 years when they broke up because he said he didn’t see a serious relationship going forward (she cheated on him during that time). So he started dating other people and so did she, and he was single around 2 years later and she was engaged. He had kept a good relationship with her parents and so he was dog sitting for them. He hadn’t spoken to her is like years, but we they talk again - she ends up breaking off her engagement because she had a “dream”. They did not rekindle. So enter me into the picture we started dating 2 years ago, and got married a few months back. So in the time we’ve been together she has:
- Sent him a text telling him congrats on dating me and wishing us the best but she’s grateful she got to be his “first” everything
- Sent me a message to say she had items at a garage sale if I wanted use anything for our wedding (she got married a few months before us.)
- I introduced myself at church and she says “do you know who I am” Yes lady…. I do.

So enter his grandparents - She was always close with his grands, her own had passed. She especially loves his grandad. She would text his grandad and complain about things, how marriage for her has been hard, etc. So recently she’s found she was pregnant and she’s asked his grandparents is she can name the baby after his grandad……

SO AITA for being irritated and shocked at the audacity of that? They’ve been broken up for 5 years, never talk, never see any of the other family members. So why name the baby after his family, intentionally? What if we wanted to use the name? I’ve been told that her family is “just different” whenever the previous things pop up and occur - But naming a kid after his family just seems too far.

I (F41) am Audhd and a 4th year psych student, could be described as a dom fem (relevant later) went on a date with K (F42?) Neuro typical and an industrial painter, (works with dudes and masc) who I matched with on tinder and have been texting for about 3 weeks, we went to a popular golf driving range that has a bar and interactive games and things. We played for about an hour, and half, we had great banter and drinks were flowing everything seemed to be going well, so we decided to get food. This was the beginning of the end!

It wasn't too busy and we sat at a table near the simulation putting thing where a group of young dudes (some had mullets [not fashionable mullets]) where sitting nearby, but they seemed fine so we didn't think twice. After a bit the group left and we got our food, I noticed a $20 note just near our table. Without any fore thought I got up and quickly scooped it up and came back to the table (Is this not normal behaviour?) as I was coming back to the table 2 of the guys (one tall and one with a Mullet) walked back to the table the group had been sitting at. I made a made a comment "find a penny pick it up all day long you'll have good luck", and they noticed and I said they would do the same thing.

OMG! Did it escalate!! The Mullet man (roughly 20ish) got super upset and started to aggressively yell that it was his mates and I should give it back and I said "prove it's yours and I will" then he said I shouldn't keep it because I knew it wasn't mine because "I Jetted for it like a black guy on the street picking up a $2 coin"

I responded "That's super racist and now I'm not giving it back"

Staff got involved and said they couldn't prove whose $20 it was because they didn't have access to cameras so they couldn't get involved but saying racial comments was not appropriate, and tall guy tried to calm him down.

I have a chest freezer in my garage that I've had about six years. Back in spring my brother in law asked if he could keep a few things in it because theirs had died and they were waiting to replace it. I said yes, there was space.

I only go out there every couple of weeks. Over the summer my own stuff got harder and harder to find, and then last week I went out for a bag of chips and the whole thing was full of identical foil trays, stacked and labelled with dates and initials on masking tape.

He's been running a meal prep business out of it. He sells to about fifteen people through a Facebook group. There were somewhere around NINETY trays in there and my own food was in a carrier bag at the bottom underneath all of it.

I didn't ring him. I took every tray out, put the lot in the wheelie bin, and messaged him afterwards to say the freezer isn't available any more.

He says that was three hundred and fifty pounds of stock and two full weekends of cooking, and that "you could have just asked me to move it." My wife thinks he's right about that part and that I've made Christmas awkward over something one phone call would have sorted. I think if he'd told me in spring what he was actually planning I'd have said no.

AITA?

TLDR: brother in law asked to store a few things in my chest freezer, turned out he was running a meal prep business out of it, and I binned about ninety trays without warning him first.

My younger sister lives about 40 mins away but works near my apartment, so sometimes she stays at mine when she has an early shift. She’s had a spare key for almost a year and it was never an issue.

Recently I started noticing little things were different after she stayed over. Food I was pretty sure I hadn’t eaten was gone, my desk chair would be moved into a different seating position, bathroom stuff would end up in different drawers etc. Nothing worth making a big deal over.

Then last week she casually mentioned how much I’d spent on a new jacket. I never told her the price.

I asked how she knew and she said she saw the receipt sitting on my desk. Thing is, the receipt was inside a notebook where I keep random expenses because I’ve been trying to budget better and actually keep some money I won on Ѕtake saved.

She said she probably moved the notebook looking for a pen and saw it by accident.

I believe that’s possible, but something about all the little stuff added together bothered me. I asked for my spare key back and told her she can still stay over, she just needs to come when I’m actually home.

She thinks I’m being weird and treating her like she stole something.

AITA?

So basically, my good friend, T, who I met through work, was having a pre-birthday drinks at her house. There were a lot of us there, in particular her friend S, who I am loosely acquainted with because we went to the same high school. We started talking about sexual compatibility with our spouses and partners and T in particular mentioned that she is often more low libido than her husband, and a few other people said the same thing, and T specifically said this has caused some issues in their relationship.

S then pipes up and starts bragging that when she isn't in the mood she just gives her husband oral and that T should do that instead. She wasn't even listening to T, because T was talking about specific hormonal issues and how hard this makes it, but she was sort of implying that T was in the wrong and her husband "deserves" something which instantly pissed me off and I told her so. I specially told her how incredibly regressive and could even be considered coercive and that it isn't good advice, it's just bragging. S got really upset and it really ruined things for a little while. When S was leaving, after she had drunk a lot more, she made a very rude comment to me and I responded in kind, and she said that I "insulted" her and her husband when the topic originally came up.

AITA?

I'm 28F and my best friend from college has been with the same guy for 3 years and she's left him 5 times now. I've picked her up at 2am twice, once from 90 minutes away, and I've lost count of the nights she's been on my couch.

Every time it's really over. She says it, I believe her, I say all the stuff you're supposed to say. Then like 2 weeks later he's back in her stories.

She went back again about 3 weeks ago. She called me Tuesday and I looked at my phone and just let it ring. Then I texted her at 11 that night saying sorry, crazy day at work, which wasn't true. Did the same thing Thursday.

And the thing is she hasn't done anything to me. She's never let me down once. When I had flu in February she turned up with soup and I hadn't even asked her to. She's also the one who's actually miserable here, not me.

I don't love her any less. I just can't hear it anymore. And that feels like a pretty ugly thing to find out about yourself.

AITA?

TLDR: best friend keeps going back to the same guy, I've started ignoring her calls and lying about why.

My mom and his mom have been best friends for years, so our families are really close. Unfortunately, he and I have never gotten along.

He’s 21 and I’m 16, and every time we’re around each other we end up arguing over something stupid.

Today he came into my room without saying anything and immediately started teasing me about being younger than him. I got annoyed and told him that if he was coming into my room, he could at least say hello instead of acting like he owned the place.

He kept teasing me, I snapped back, and eventually my older brother had to come in and stop us because we were getting too loud.

My family thinks we were both being childish, but I feel like he started it by coming into my room and talking down to me.

AITA for getting angry and arguing with him instead of just ignoring him?