AITAH for not backing down and having a slight confrontation with dudes while on a date with a woman
I (F41) am Audhd and a 4th year psych student, could be described as a dom fem (relevant later) went on a date with K (F42?) Neuro typical and an industrial painter, (works with dudes and masc) who I matched with on tinder and have been texting for about 3 weeks, we went to a popular golf driving range that has a bar and interactive games and things. We played for about an hour, and half, we had great banter and drinks were flowing everything seemed to be going well, so we decided to get food. This was the beginning of the end!
It wasn't too busy and we sat at a table near the simulation putting thing where a group of young dudes (some had mullets [not fashionable mullets]) where sitting nearby, but they seemed fine so we didn't think twice. After a bit the group left and we got our food, I noticed a $20 note just near our table. Without any fore thought I got up and quickly scooped it up and came back to the table (Is this not normal behaviour?) as I was coming back to the table 2 of the guys (one tall and one with a Mullet) walked back to the table the group had been sitting at. I made a made a comment "find a penny pick it up all day long you'll have good luck", and they noticed and I said they would do the same thing.
OMG! Did it escalate!! The Mullet man (roughly 20ish) got super upset and started to aggressively yell that it was his mates and I should give it back and I said "prove it's yours and I will" then he said I shouldn't keep it because I knew it wasn't mine because "I Jetted for it like a black guy on the street picking up a $2 coin"
I responded "That's super racist and now I'm not giving it back"
Staff got involved and said they couldn't prove whose $20 it was because they didn't have access to cameras so they couldn't get involved but saying racial comments was not appropriate, and tall guy tried to calm him down.