AITA for calling off our wedding?
So my Fiancé's father past away a little more than a month ago and religiously, they don't do any celebrations until after 40 days have passed. My fiancé wanted to have a religious wedding ceremony in honour of her father because he's always wanted that for us.
Prior to her dad's passing, she wanted to get married in his hospital room but since he passed away, she had the idea of getting married at him grave after the 40th day.
Yesterday, she said she wanted to have the ceremony this weekend coming and to tell my family. All she wanted to do was the ceremony and nothing else. No celebrations/party afterward well, for obvious reasons.
I told my family this and they said, that they would at least like to have a small dinner to celebrate our union. Because for them, they're seeing their son/little brother get married and want to celebrate that. Nothing fancy, no alcohol or anything that a normal wedding would have. Just mine and her immediate family. She got upset at the fact that my family wanted to do this for us. She said that she doesn't wanna do any celebrations right now becasue of how she feels. So I asked why we're having a wedding anyways? I get it, it's to honour her father, but what about my family's wishes? I still have both my parents here and it feels like she wants to rob them of that experience solely because she doesn't have her father anymore.
She was yelling at me and so I walked away, telling her that she's not ready to have a conversation and she told me to go find a new partner. The following are the texts that followed.
Her, Her family and I have a family group chat and told everyone that this weekend wasn't happening becasue of this.
Is there something I'm not understanding? Am I being a total dick for this? Like, is my family asking for too much? A bbq at home, a picnic at park, something to create memories with both of us. Not just a ceremony. Please help me understand.