Found out my friend lied about why he couldn't come to my birthday and idk if I should bring it up
My birthday was a few weeks ago, nothing big just dinner with like 6 people at a place we all like. One of my closer friends said he couldn't make it last minute, told me he wasnt feeling well.
Saw on instagram two days later that he was at some concert that same night. Wasnt even like a private story, just there on his feed. Tagged location and everything.
We've been friends for like 4 years and things have been a bit off for a few months but I couldn't tell if i was imagining it. I havent said anything yet and neither has he, just been normal texting since.
I'm not hurt about missing the dinner, more just confused why he felt like he had to lie instead of just saying he didn't want to come or had other plans. I wouldve been fine with that. I had a good night regardless and had extra money to cover the dinner myself anyway so it wasnt a big deal logistically.
Do I say something or just quietly note it and adjust how much I invest in this friendship going forward. Unsure if bringing it up makes me look needy or if saying nothing is just letting myself get mugged off.