u/AmbassadorOdd3126

New people moved in next door in March. They're perfectly nice, we've chatted a few times, no issues at all until now.

They put a camera up above their side door in June, one of those doorbell style ones on a bracket. The problem is the angle. Our kitchen window looks onto their side path and the camera is pointed more or less straight at it. I only noticed because my husband was doing the dishes one evening and said he felt like he was being watched, and when I went out and looked up at it, it is aimed right in.

I can see it from the sink, so it can see me at the sink, and it can see about half the kitchen behind me including the table where we eat.

I know it's their property and their camera and they're entitled to secure their own house. I also know they almost certainly did not sit there aiming it at us on purpose and it's probably just where the bracket happened to sit, so I'm not accusing anybody of anything here.

But I've started shutting the blind at about 6 every evening and I caught myself the other day not walking back through my own kitchen in a towel, and I really don't like that I'm doing that in my own house.

My sister figures if I say something I become the neighbor who complained about a camera 2 months after they put it up, and it'll be awkward with them forever over a thing they didn't even do deliberately. She thinks I should leave it and keep the blind shut.

Would I be the Karen for raising it?

I'm 28F and my best friend from college has been with the same guy for 3 years and she's left him 5 times now. I've picked her up at 2am twice, once from 90 minutes away, and I've lost count of the nights she's been on my couch.

Every time it's really over. She says it, I believe her, I say all the stuff you're supposed to say. Then like 2 weeks later he's back in her stories.

She went back again about 3 weeks ago. She called me Tuesday and I looked at my phone and just let it ring. Then I texted her at 11 that night saying sorry, crazy day at work, which wasn't true. Did the same thing Thursday.

And the thing is she hasn't done anything to me. She's never let me down once. When I had flu in February she turned up with soup and I hadn't even asked her to. She's also the one who's actually miserable here, not me.

I don't love her any less. I just can't hear it anymore. And that feels like a pretty ugly thing to find out about yourself.

AITA?

TLDR: best friend keeps going back to the same guy, I've started ignoring her calls and lying about why.

I'm 29F, my brother's 33M, and he was made redundant at the end of March along with his whole team, so none of this is his fault to begin with.

He just never told anyone. He's been getting up and putting a shirt on and leaving at seven every morning and coming back at six like normal, since March, and his wife only found out herself in June.

He told me in May because he needed to borrow $600, and made me promise I wouldn't say anything until he'd sorted it out.

Our parents lend him money sometimes. My dad retired in January and they're not in a great position, and my mom put $2,000 into his car in June while I knew he had no income and said nothing about it. I've thought about that a lot more than I've thought about the $600.

Two weeks ago my mom asked me outright, sat at her kitchen table, whether he was alright because he'd been off with her. I said he lost his job in March.

He called me that night and said I'd humiliated him in front of the only people whose opinion he actually cares about, and that he'd asked me for one thing.

He's blocked me since. My mom won't talk about it at all, which I wasn't expecting and don't really know what to do with.

Am I wrong?

My sister is 29 and due in November. Her husband is lovely and they're happily married, there's no problem between them at all.

Three weeks ago she asked whether I'd be her birth partner instead of him. Her reasoning is that he went white and had to sit down when she had her bloods taken, and she doesn't trust him not to panic on the day. She said "I need someone in there who isn't going to make it about them."

I said no. I told her I love her and I'll be at the hospital the whole time, I'll sit in the corridor for as long as it takes and get her anything she wants, but I don't want to be in the room for the actual birth. I've never wanted children and I'm genuinely squeamish and I think I would be WORSE than useless in there.

She cried. She's since told our mum I'm choosing my own comfort over her, and mum has rung me twice now to say that family is family. Her husband messaged me separately to say he'd rather be in there anyway and he thinks she's being unreasonable, which I appreciated but obviously can't repeat to her.

She's now saying she'll go in on her own if I won't do it. I think that's emotional blackmail. My mum thinks I'm being cold about something that only happens once.

AITA?