TW: child loss and active pregnancy
A really good friend of mine recently lost her 3 month old to SIDS. I was heartbroken with her. We live an hour away from each other and we only see each other around once or twice a year. I haven't seen her since the loss as it sounded like she wanted space. I sent a care package, letters, and have been checking in via text. I found out I was pregnant a couple months after her loss.
I don't know if I should tell her that I'm pregnant at some point? She has 5 kids and because we see each other Infrequently I think there have been a couple times I didn't even know she was pregnant until I saw her new baby.
I don't mind not telling her about my pregnancy to spare her feelings but I don't want her to feel hurt by me not telling her either.
What can I do that will cause her the least pain and be the best for our friendship?
Also, I want to visit her soon, but I don't know if her seeing my 2YO daughter will be upsetting to her?