u/Johnnie_Cannon

I study at a university where they oppress girls and adore guys. I have been studying here for two years, and during these two years, I got so tired of listening to the fact that girls can do nothing, that they are dumber and less quick-witted. This hurts and kills the desire to study, especially when you actually succeed at studying. And just so you understand, girls here condemn girls even more than men do.

So, today I had a project defense. I answered perfectly, I always learn everything because I like it.

But once again, they lowered my grade without any objectivity. Of course, I asked, what for? "What did you not like? Please tell me so that I can prepare better next time." But she did not answer anything. She said that she is not obligated to report to me, and today my patience just popped.

I voiced to her everything that I think, and said that I will write a complaint against her. We started to quarrel and argue, and she said to me that she will make it so that I fly out from this university. I became scared. She truly has status among the teachers and I fear that they will now give me grades that are even worse.

This is the university of my dream, it was very difficult for me to enter here. My parents do not know about this situation yet, but before this, when I told them about different cases, they told me to simply stay quiet and finish my studies. I got tired of staying quiet from one side, and from the other side, if they kick me out, I will be upset even more.

Am I the jerk in this situation? And what should I do?

Guys, hello everyone, first of all I want to thank you for your support and for opening my eyes to this whole friendship. Thank you very much.

I would like to share the news with you that we completely stopped talking with Kira. We had a phone call with her, she even saw the post that I wrote. But she also stood her ground, so there was nothing more to discuss, I said that we are ending our communication.

Very strange feelings to be honest, but everything happens the way it's supposed to happen, thank you very much once again.

TL;DR: Kira saw my post but still stood her ground on the phone call. I officially ended our friendship. Reddit proved that I am NTJ here.

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It was my birthday and I wanted to celebrate it only with the girls. I have a boyfriend, and we talked beforehand. I told him that if he felt comfortable, he could come and sit with us. However, he said that we would celebrate together just the two of us later, and I should enjoy my time with the girls separately. I said, Of course, babe, no questions, everything is fine.

And so the day came. There were five of us in total, including me. We ordered mains, appetizers, cocktails, and had a great time. When we were already supposed to leave, my boyfriend walked into the restaurant by himself. He said hello to everyone and asked me if we were finished. I said, Yes babe, we are done, we are about to get ready now.

He said, Okay, I will go then and close the check, and you guys get ready. I will help carry the gifts and flowers to the car. I said okay, and he went to pay the bill to the administrator. My friends and I drank the last sips of our cocktails and started getting ready slowly.

Just as we were leaving, my boyfriend came up to take the boxes. Suddenly, one of my girlfriends, Kira, said to him: So did you want to show off in front of us like this? Someone is a bit too cool. I didn't really understand this. I said: Kira, let's step aside and talk,

I didn't quite understand your question. My boyfriend apparently either didn't hear this or it just passed by him. He just took those boxes and carried them to the car; he didn't even turn around.

When we stepped aside, I asked her what she meant. She said: Listen, I have nothing against you or your young man. The fact that he closes the check on your birthday is basically normal.

But why was it necessary to say this in front of all of us?

I told her I didn't think it could hurt anyone. I really didn't want to show off. Plus, they all know that my boyfriend closes checks for me in many places and gives me gifts. We have been together for 3.5 years already, it all happens openly. Why is she saying such things? She replied: It's good that he didn't name the amount in front of us at least.

I told her she understood everything wrong and it honestly wasn't like that. She then admitted that for her, it looked exactly like that since she is single and doesn't have a boyfriend like him.

Now I'm overthinking her words.It feels like she is just projecting her own loneliness and jealousy onto my relationship. I am honestly thinking about distancing myself and cutting back on our communication because her comment felt toxic and ruined my birthday mood.

Am I the jerk for wanting to minimize contact with her over this? What should I do?

TL;DR: My boyfriend came to the restaurant at the very end of my birthday dinner to pay the bill and help with gifts. My single friend accused him of showing off and being too cool.