Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year. Today she asked me to get pizza, and I told her no because I’m trying to be more responsible with money right now. We have a trip coming up this summer and her birthday is soon, so I’ve been trying to save more.
After I said no, she got upset and said it would be a “problem for us.” When I tried to explain my reasoning, she said it’s not about one meal and that I’ve “been like this.”
That caught me off guard because I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong. From my perspective, I’ve just been trying to be smarter with money, not shut her down or avoid doing things with her.
I told her I want to understand if it’s coming off a certain way and that I’m not trying to make it a bigger issue, but I still don’t really know what she meant or what specific behavior she’s referring to.
Since then, she’s kind of gone back to talking normally (like telling me about something that happened at school), so it doesn’t feel like we’re actively arguing anymore. I’m just left confused about what she meant by “I’ve been like this” and whether there’s something I’m missing.
She’s not usually like this, but I have noticed that when she’s stressed or really hungry, she can react more strongly in the moment and then cool off pretty quickly.
TL;DR:
Girlfriend asked for pizza, I said no to save money for upcoming plans. She got upset and said I’ve “been like this,” but later went back to normal conversation. I’m trying to understand what she meant and if I’m coming across wrong.