AITA For buying ice cream and fighting with my mom.
I want to start this off by saying I’m only writing on here to vent.
Me (F17) was at a party with my family for the 4th of July. We were in the pool, and the evening was fine so far. An ice cream truck went by, and all the kids had gotten out of the pool and gone to the back of the neighborhood. I bought my ice cream, and they came back. My mother started yelling at me when they came. She was cursing at me, saying if I was going to buy ice cream, it had to be for everybody. She bought the kids ice cream and started yelling at me repeatedly in front of people, basically embarrassing me in front of strangers. She even compared me to my dad’s mom, who used to buy ice cream for my cousins and made me and my sister watch.
I got angry, changed back into my dress, and stayed inside because I needed to cool off. My mother followed me, basically trying to make me talk. I was sobbing uncontrollably (I’m a very sensitive person and cry easily, especially when I’m embarrassed). My mother has a habit of starting fights or arguments with me and then forcing me to kiss and hug her. This is where I might be the AH. I told her I didn’t want to kiss her if I was mad at her, and she got very angry.
I didn’t want to eat because I had completely lost my appetite. I didn’t eat any food that day or yesterday until really late because my stepdad forced me to eat. Then, when I went downstairs to eat, my mother basically started saying things to me and said she would send me to live with my donor. We aren’t close because he was never much of a father to me. I ignored her and went back up to my room.
My mother talked to me once more, and I was tired of arguing, so I took all the blame for the situation and basically made her feel like she was in the right. It’s better to let her win an argument than keep going, or else it gets worse with her. She also said I was being disrespectful and that I should respect her since she’s my mother, but last I checked, respect goes both ways, and she doesn’t respect me either.
So, am I the AH?