Genuinely curious what you guys think. This is mainly target for guys but would also like girls to chime in. I was having a discussion in another subreddit and I mentioned how gooning can really open up a can of worms and addiction to gooning and porn is somewhat common. I got some responses that were more or less saying to just control it and it’s normal. I have a problem with these statements.
Say from like 10-13 when most of us get exposure to it for the first time we are so young and super impressionable. Most of us at this time were around the internet and porn etc was and still is super accessible. It was my experience that throughout my teens I was told gooning, porn, and masturbation was normal. All my guy friends did it. But right from like 16 on I saw that gooning even if it was once in a while made me feel like crap and down. I am one to admit I have been addicted at one point or another. Gooning would sometimes make it into my everyday thoughts and it really took away and screwed with my attention span, feelings about sex and women and whatnot.
I know im not alone is this either. Men, and women as well, at our ages have increasingly felt isolated and alone and many of us to resort to gooning for pleasure and stimulus. This is where I have a problem with the “it’s normal” and “just don’t get addicted” mindset. Why are we as a society tell ourselves and even teens that’s this is okay. We know that addictions start slow but things like gooning can become problems. Why do I get pushback when I say that gooning like this is not normal and that we would be better off pursuing hobbies, getting outside, and interacting with others etc. I just feel as a society (especially us in our 20s) need to take a step back from this normalcy mindset and start to tell others that gooning like people do is or very well could get to be a detriment to your health. Shouldn’t we encourage others to kick the habits that are directly harming us. Even if you have a “healthy” relationship with gooning, can’t we just see how addictive and demoralizing it is to society as a whole.
This just irks me and I want to know your thoughts on this. Maybe I’m just out of touch and spewing nonsense but I really think there is merit to my argument. I wish I could go back to my 16 year old self and tell me all of this.