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It’s disappointing that even amongst my peers there’s still a lot of othering to those who don’t fit in. yesterday the amount of pure hate and transphobia i received over a simple video wasn‘t shocking because i think 99% of trans people have experienced similar invalidation and rudeness before both in real life and online, but ngl it was still hurtful nonetheless.

it’s like you have to be cishet and neurotypical in order to be liked. and don’t even dare share a picture of yourself because they will come for your looks or act like you personally offended them when they can just scroll. it has made me self conscious from doing that again here. a lot of us get judged harshly in real life and come online to connect with others and i was excited finding out a place like this existed but now i know there’s a good number of mean spirited people on here. there’s some nice ones who are pretty cool though and the mods did step in but it’s clear certain people aren’t welcomed here. i’ve noticed this with similar posts here from others like me too. i am once again reminded that the only places i will be accepted are queer groups. i already know this post will be downvoted as that’s what happens when they are too cowardly to show their disdain for you directly, but i am posting this regardless ✌️

I don’t consider myself a superstitious person, I’m fine with spilling salt, walking under a ladder, and I think black cats are good luck. 13 is a fun number. However I REFUSE to get up on the wrong side of the bed. Not sure why. Just feels super wrong.

I feel like people our age are similar? Most peers I know only have some superstitions/rituals because their grandma taught them or whatever. Most people do knock on wood which I think is fun and cute.

Soooo do you have any superstitions? Do you consider yourself a superstitious person?

(PS I watched Something Very Bad is Going to Happen recently and it really put in my mind how superstitions can ruin someone’s whole vibe. Like he didn’t hold his breath for a full minute while driving and she tried to HOLD HIS MOUTH CLOSED because it was “bad luck” to breathe in a tunnel. Tbf she *was* actually cursed though.)

Fuck be cringe be stupid do stupid and cringe things who actually cares. If you waste your time and mental energy worrying about what someone else is doing because you're personally too embarrassed to do that then that's miserable.

Bottom line stop giving a fuck about what other people think of your hobbies, what you do and your personality. If you're "cringe" embrace it and if people don't like it that's their issue.

I am going through some post-birthday depression. Just got out of bed at 7pm after doing nothing all day with an assignment due tomorrow. Feed me your wisdom, tell me your tales, or make jokes to cheer me up.

I graduated college with a game design degree. Im proud of myself for doing it, but now I feel stuck. I have no clue what to do with my life. I don’t really want to work in the field, yet I have no clue what I would rather do. I work retail right now, and it’s.. fine…? Not terrible, but not something I plan to do forever. I feel directionless now, and it’s really weighing on me.

I always try to help others but this time I did to people who were just using me and I don't know why I feel bad if I don't help others when I had the opportunity.

I tried for job referrals for weeks and finally got one and the HR told me if you want you refer more people so I referred 3 of my friends but once they got the refferal they stopped talking to me and they cleared all the rounds and didn't even tell me once about it and got the jobs. No thanks not even any conversation... Feeling why did I even refer them how can I make myself feel better. And I am still stuck here searching for a job.

Curious given talk about “loneliness epidemic” in Gen Z. How many of you guys have supportive friend groups/families/communities to rely on?

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So I feel like we tend to think that body language is always going to be accurate in most cases when dealing with others especially in romantic context. For example, a guy can misread a woman's friendliness for flirtatious energy. Well, I have a story of a girl in my class who ultimately gave mixed signals and is the reason why I dont't really believe in body language cues anymore.

So this happen 3 years ago in my med school class. For the purpose of this story, the girl will be named Sarah. Sarah was another classmate who was the typical pretty girl tbh. Every guy was pining to be with her. In fact, I overheard dudes taking bets on who is going to lock her down. All of it went down in the Friday night bar. I was a shy guy who already discounted my luck with Sarah. I didnt warm up at all to nobody so what was the chances of Sarah actually liking me.

So idk what happen that Friday, but the next week, Sarah took a lot of interest in me. She started to randomly come sit next to me. She invited me to get lunch with her and would follow me around. Before we even ended up becoming friends, I remember her moving to where I was at a gathering in hopes I would start a convo with her.

So fast forward 4 months, I felt comfortable with Sarah since she seemed to understand me. I became more outgoing around her and eventually developed a crush. Honestly it was only amount of time for her looks and personality to have an effect. This is when I started to wounder does she like me?

She did all the things this forum would say. She leaned in when talking. She gave strong eye contact and sometimes touch. She would tease me a lot. She also gave compliments. She loved to say I had a nice shirt every time she saw me and asked follow up questions in person and text. Lastly, she had a distinct way of saying my name. She would get high pitched and annunciate every vowel. So I thought she liked me because this isnt friendly behavior or so I thought.

Once I started to do light flirting myself, things changed. She backed up if I touched her the way she touched me. She just said thanks to my compliments. She never texted me alot and she made sure to keep the texting more surface level. Eventually I found out that Sarah had a bf that lived a couple states away and she never told me. In fact, everyone found out but she would never admit to it to me. Her friends made her tell me.

So I moved on from Sarah and got a gf myself. Sarah made a sarcastic comment which was "you are only with her because she is nice and nothing else". So I assume she got jealous. She texted me a lot more when I was with my now ex.

Moving to today, Sarah is going strong with her bf and we dont really talk that much anymore. I am very saddening that our friendship has ended because ironically, she understood me better than anyone. But the question remains, "did she ever like me"

The answer which is probably but didnt want to act on it. This would explain the mixed signals. So I tell this story that body language cues arent really cut and dry like we may think. It isnt that we always misread others either.

Sometimes it is just like that

send help 😭

Im no longer unemployed now