u/Dangerous_mammoth573

I’m curious to hear where people here are from and what the culture around sex and relationships is like in your area/community.

I’m from norway, which is generally a very sexually liberal and open-minded country. I also volunteer at a sexual health clinic for young people, so I’m interested in hearing different perspectives and understanding how attitudes differ culturally, politically, or religiously. most people here have sex before marriage, most have kids before marriage too. Casual sex also isn’t considered especially unusual socially.

Here in Norway, sexual healthcare is very accessible. STD/STI treatment is free, and testing is mostly free for people under 25. Birth control is free or very cheap for anyone under 23, and if you’re 13+ you can access it without parental permission or knowledge (although involving parents is encouraged). Abortions are free, and condoms can even be ordered to your home for free through some programs.

Hey everyone, I’m from Norway, which is a very sexually liberal and open-minded country. I also volunteer at a sexual health clinic for young people, so I’m interested in hearing different perspectives.

What are your thoughts on sex education in schools and on birth control in general? Do you think schools should mainly teach abstinence, or also cover contraception, STDs, consent, even pleasure etc.?

Just genuinely curious to hear conservative viewpoints

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I’m 5’3” (160 cm), my boyfriend is 5’8” (173 cm), both our families are short, and we’re Norwegian so we already feel below average 💀

I’m also adopted so I don’t even know what surprise genetics I might be bringing into this

I’m watching a couple of shows. A few weeks ago, I started one called *A Place to Call Home*, and I’m completely obsessed with it. It’s so underrated.

Jeg er nysgjerrig på hva folk tenker om dette. Mener dere at man bør ha en geografisk/familiær tilknytning til bunaden man bruker, eller synes dere det er helt greit å velge den man liker best ut fra utseende, detaljer eller hva man synes er finest?

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I deal with chronic fatigue and migraines, so I don’t usually have a lot of stamina during sex if I’m on top. One position my partner and I rarely do but both REALLY enjoy is me being on top, but I’ve noticed it often ends up with him basically doing most of the work because I run out of energy before we both orgasm.

I still want to be able to enjoy that position more often, but I’m trying to figure out how to make it less physically demanding for me without it just turning into him doing all the movement.

I tend to prefer more hip rotation and a mix of movement rather than constant up-and-down, but I’d also like to get better at that motion without tiring out so fast.

Any tips on positioning, pacing, support, or techniques that make this easier while still keeping it enjoyable for both

I deal with chronic fatigue and migraines, so I don’t usually have a lot of stamina during sex if I’m on top. One position my partner and I rarely do but both REALLY enjoy is me being on top, but I’ve noticed it often ends up with him basically doing most of the work because I run out of energy before we both orgasm.

I still want to be able to enjoy that position more often, but I’m trying to figure out how to make it less physically demanding for me without it just turning into him doing all the movement.

I tend to prefer more hip rotation and a mix of movement rather than constant up-and-down, but I’d also like to get better at that motion without tiring out so fast.

Any tips on positioning, pacing, support, or techniques that make this easier while still keeping it enjoyable for both

I was talking to a really tall guy (6'8) about height preferences. He said he prefers shorter women max 5'11 but also down to 4'11 or 5'1 because if a woman is too tall he “can’t comfortably hold her,” but if she’s too short “it feels too much like a child.”

I mentioned that 5'1 next to a 6'8 guy looks extremely tiny, and he responded saying that since he used to BABYSIT a lot growing up, that kind of thing was “endearing enough for it to be acceptable with an actual woman.”

Then later he said:
“Guys do like cute women too.”
“As long as you’re NOT an actual child no major issue.”
“A man’s not allowed to like shorter cute women?”
“And a boy growing up isn’t allowed to think kids are cute too????”

I told him the way he phrased it sounded like he liked women who remind him of children, and he replied with "alas if you can't articulate than that just means YOU are the one with the creepy thoughts in your head"

Am I overreacting or were those comments genuinely weird? I can’t tell if he just phrased himself horribly or if other people would also be uncomfortable reading this conversation.

Like obviously Caroline made a lot of weird and honestly pretty fucked up choices, and she really doesnt seem emotionally stable. She came across more like a really vulnerable and messed up person than some calculated mastermind to me. I can actually understand how she ended up making a lot of the decisions she did, even if they were horrible ones.

What frustrates me most though is the police side of it. From what was shown, both she and her family were actively trying to get help and warning people for a long time, but it felt like they just didn’t take her seriously because she didn’t fit their narrow idea of what a “real” vulnerable victim looks like because she was a Dr.

I’m volunteering at a sexual health clinic for youths (13-25)

And we’re getting a class of 8th graders visit. We plan on having them write down questions anonymously either on phone or on paper that we’ll read out loud and answer.. so just trying to prepare.

Any and all questions are welcome, no such things as stupid question.

i posted this post a month ago thought of a few more that really stand out:

He’s always willing to drive me to and from parties or outings if he can, no questions asked. Especially on days where I’m low on energy, it just takes so much pressure off and lets me actually enjoy things.

If I mention liking a drink or a certain food, he’ll actually go out of his way to learn how to make it himself without me ever asking. It’s such a small thing, but the effort behind it means a lot.

He’s also really verbal about how he feels. He never lets a day go by without telling me how grateful he is for me, and I never have to doubt whether he loves me or finds me attractive he always makes sure I know.

What about you? 💛

Anyway, for cultural context in Norway we have this sacred concept called utepils. It literally means “outside beer, but it’s way more than that. The SECOND the weather even hints at being decent after months of cold and darkness, everyone rushes outside to sit in the sun with a beer like it’s a national emergency.

Doesn’t matter if it’s like 10°C and windy. If there’s sun, it’s utepils season. You sit there, slightly underdressed, maybe shivering a bit, but pretending it’s summer. It’s basically a collective delusion powered by vitamin D deprivation.

So yeah… today turned into an accidental Monday utepils that escalated a bit too fast 🍻

i spent like an hour making new flairs for this sub

ONE. HOUR.

do you know what i could’ve done in that time??
homework. sleep. emotional growth. but NO. i was out here crafting tiny colorful labels for you gremlins

so PLEASE. for the love of everything. USE. THE. CORRECT. FLAIRS.

this is not a suggestion
this is a lifestyle

if i see one more obviously wrong flaired post I will personally come to your house and reorganize your spotify playlists in a way that feels slightly off but you can’t explain why

thank you for your cooperation

So I’m turning 22 soon, and in my head I feel like I look… roughly my age? Like early 20s, 20–23 or something. Nothing weird.

But stuff like this keeps on happenin to me. the other day I went to buy a Monster (which is 16+ here), and the cashier asked for ID. I told them I’m 22, didn’t have my physical ID on me cuz im just buying fruit and a freaking monster..... but I literally drove there and pointed at my car… and they still didn’t believe me 💀

Then the NEXT day I’m chatting with someone online and I ask how old I look, and they say 29-30???

Now I’m just sitting here like… what?? How can I look UNDER 16 and 30 at the same time 😭

I’m 21, not ready for kids at all, but I’m also in a real adult relationship now. I started birth control at 12 for hormonal reasons, but now I’m mostly on it for protection. I can’t use anything with estrogen anymore, so I’ve tried a bunch of progestin‑only options. The side effects aren’t dangerous or huge, just one really annoying one that’s been dragging on for a long time.

It’s starting to affect my mood and honestly the intimacy in my relationship too. I sometimes feel stuck between “I hate this” and “I don’t trust being off it.”

Does/has anyone else dealt with this? How do you keep things feeling normal when birth control stress is always in the background?

I’m 21, not ready for kids at all, but I’m also in a real adult relationship now. I started birth control at 12 for hormonal reasons, but now I’m mostly on it for protection. I can’t use anything with estrogen anymore, so I’ve tried a bunch of progestin‑only options. The side effects aren’t dangerous or huge, just one really annoying one that’s been dragging on for a long time.

It’s starting to affect my mood and honestly the intimacy in my relationship too. I sometimes feel stuck between “I hate this” and “I don’t trust being off it.”

Does/has anyone else dealt with this? How do you keep things feeling normal when birth control stress is always in the background?

i’m a student so during the school year i don’t really work, i just live off student loans (it works a bit differently here in norway). in the summer i work though, and this year i got a new job at about $24.50/hour

i genuinely can’t tell if i’m doing fine or way behind compared to other people my age lol

how much are you guys making right now? and where do you live + does it actually feel like a good salary for your area or not

what do you think will be the best part about it? And on the flip side, what do you think might be the worst part or biggest downside?

For example, do you imagine the best part being emotional connection, physical pleasure, feeling wanted, or something else? And for the downsidare you worried about awkwardness expectations not matching reality, performance anxiety, or something different?