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I’ve wanted to write this post for a while, and I talked with my ex beforehand and she was totally okay with me sharing this and posting some SFW photos of us together.

I’m 3’7”. She’s 5’6” and 18 years younger than me.

We met on Tinder, and honestly, we had an amazing relationship. We were together for three years. We eventually grew apart, and that’s okay. Relationships sometimes end. That doesn’t erase the fact that they were real, meaningful, and beautiful while they lasted.

The reason I wanted to post this is because I see so many guys in here believing height automatically disqualifies them from love, attraction, dating, relationships, or being desired. I promise you it does not.

When I met her, I was in my early 40s and around 35 pounds overweight. I wasn’t rich. I wasn’t some male model. I wasn’t trying to be “alpha.” I was just fully myself.

At one point I asked her, “Why did you pick me?” Especially because she had dated professional athletes, model type guys, tall guys, all of that.

Her answer stuck with me.

She said it was my confidence and the fact that my photos looked like I actually lived life.

My dating profile wasn’t me standing in front of a mirror trying to look tough. It was photos of me hiking, gold panning, flying RC helicopters, traveling, laughing, building things, exploring, being passionate about life. It showed curiosity, energy, and that I actually enjoyed being alive.

That matters way more than most guys think.

A lot of attraction is emotional experience. It’s how someone feels around you. It’s your energy, confidence, humor, passion, purpose, and ability to make someone feel safe, excited, seen, and alive.

And yeah, some people are going to say, “But you’re not still together.”

Correct. Relationships end sometimes. That’s life. This was my fourth serious relationship. Before that, I was married for 17 years. None of that changes the fact that I’ve been deeply loved multiple times in my life as a very short man.

So I just wanted to post this for the younger guys in here, or honestly any person struggling with confidence:

You do not need to be tall to be desired.

You do not need to become someone else.

You do not need to give up on dating because of your height.

Build a life that feels exciting to YOU. Become someone engaged with the world. Learn how to connect with people. Develop confidence through action, not fantasy.

People are attracted to people who are alive inside.

I hope this helps some of you.

So context growing up I was always an outcast from anything and everything. Whether it be family events, friends throwing party’s or just simply trying to have a girlfriend. I was never the first person anyone thought about or wanted to hang out with even today when I go hang out with people it’s always in a group of 5+ and I’m just in the background just there like out of pity no one wants to hangout with me by themselves. And for the people that will say you need to make the first move in any situation I do every conversation I have with anyone they only have one worded responses or they just simply ignore what I have to say. When it comes to females absolutely no luck what so ever they actively avoid me anywhere I go I tried dating apps and even tried to talk to them at the bar “Ik not the place you want to find a girl but I have had literally no luck anywhere else I tried”. Let me describe myself I’m 20 years old 5’6 180pounds at 20% body fat if you know numbers and heath you can understand where I stand on the totem poll. I like sports like every other guy including mma, and trucks, guns. I share a lot of the same hobby’s as majority the people my age and yet no one wants to hang watch the game on the tv go mud riding with me everything I have ever done in my life was alone. should I change who I am, my habits, my hobbies the way I look to give me a better chance at making friends, and talking to females. Or just stay the same person and leave it up to god.

First run since the marathon. It was short and slow but I got back out there.

Everytime i look at arman he does not look short at all. But for some reason when i look at ilia he gives a short compacted look. Yet their both listed at the same height. If anything one might be half an inch taller but thats about it.

Hi everyone, as a 5'4 guy living in Germany i faced a lot of troubles in dating, but last week i was in Italy and somehow i was picking up girls so easily, is it dependent on the place it self ppl having a different expectations or is it just my self confidence got boosted?
Does anyone experienced the same situation?

First picture is Arnau Mestre, a Spanish influencer standing at 172cm (5’7 and 3/4), the second one is Tom Cruise, an American actor standing at 170cm (5’7).

Despite the difference between them being 2cm (Three quarters of an inch) Arnau looks significantly taller than Tom, and could probably pass off in photos as being 5’10 or taller.

So what’s causing this? Is the styling of the clothes? Their body structure? A combination of both? Another factor? Would like to know if anyone knows the answer, thanks.