u/JozuShaka03

I 32(M) am the youngest of three older sisters. My second oldest sister has two sons. The older of the two is graduating on May 13th this year. On his birthday a month prior he had a huge birthday day dinner with over 17 people. However come to find out my wife and I weren’t considered for his birthday dinner. However my whole family was there, his family and her friends. Anytime my sister does their birthday dinners we always get an invite the day of usually an hour before. However I must give over a month advance notice for anything because he schedule is too chaotic. She has been working the same job since she was 14. We didn’t receive a single invite yet we invite them to everything. She says she is busy all the time but has time to constantly drive past us to go to Georgia which is 7 hours away. My sister never really accepted my wife and don’t bother to even try to connect to my children who are 3, 5 and 6. Am I the asshole for not wanting to go?