14 year old and continually missing homework
I'm looking for others who may have had this experience. I'm at my wit's end.
My 14 year old son is in the 8th grade and is, generally, awesome. We have great conversations and I good, fun relationship. He's very bright and loves to learn.
Our biggest challenge is with homework. He can't seem to finish it or turn it in correctly. I try to keep an eye on Canvas for his homework assignments, but this is a big job. Teachers all use Canvas differently. Some post things there, some don't. Some take 2 weeks to grade assignments, and that's when I find out something is missing. Some make students turn things in both in Canvas and in person, so it becomes hard to track completion.
He didn't have homework in elementary school, and when he started 6th grade it was like they were making up for lost time. This has been a struggle throughout all of middle school. He has had sessions with a social worker at his pediatrician's office. He was screened for ADHD but none of his teachers seem to see a problem, so he didn't get a diagnosis (I am convinced he has the inattentive type, which I also have). I've tried so many ways to help him, give him advice, etc. His grades are tanking and it's largely due to homework.
Today we got an email from his art teacher that he is missing a bunch of stuff and now has to do a special presentation in class. There are rubrics and metrics to pay attention to that impact the grade.
I'm at my wits end. This is putting a strain on his relationship with his dad (my husband) and to be honest, I'm ready to go from supportive to straight up ahole.
Has anyone else gone through this who can offer advice on how to get to the other side? We care about his grades, but we're not demanding straight As. I think our expectations are reasonable, but this is trying our patience.
Thank you!