u/JudgmentStraight

Hey, can someone help type my partner

We are unsure about the enneagram
been focused on SX for her but need help typing

About her
She’s 20, loves animals, reading about MBTI, analyzing, editing and gaming. She is smart, funny, and caring (especially with me and her mom)

A little about her from my perspective
My partner is a very calm, collected person, but she is also a very impatient person, she is extremely logic in my opinion, she is facts based, smart, confident in her abilities a strong character i would say. She’s funny, seems like she always know what to say for any type of situation. She can be controlling, possessive. She had a tendency to think of stuff as hers. And example is she gets frustrated and irritated if she has to share her favorite things with other people, it can be all from candy to characters in a show. She is also extremely competitive, in a way where when we play something together i play for the fun, having fun with her while playing, she plays to win, no discussion, she plays to win. And if we don’t win, she not all to happy about what we/or i did wrong that’s made us loose.

Needs
She needs safety, stability around her, she needs to know she’s seen and heard. And taken care off. She needs to know she is proritized

wants
She wants comfort, love, attention and affection.

motivantions
What keeps her motivated is something to look forward too, examples is plans we have made for the future, things she likes that’s coming her way, seeing results and learning.

fears
She fears being alone, forgotten, she fears dying

stress
She’s actually a really calm and collected person during stress, it can seem like it doesn’t get to her because she always know what to do, it’s like she’s always a step ahead, but it depends on the situation, because there are situations where she is filled with hatred, anger, she get black and white thinking and can get really mad and frustrated.

She also has anger issues, and a lot of things irritate her throughout the day.
Examples like people who aren’t efficient, if someone say something stupid, something that doesent make sense or add up

I need help w typing and i want to be typed in any system

I’m 21 years old
Introverted

My friends would describe me as caring, funny and kind
Strangers/new people would probably describe me as shy and quiet.

I think my best qualities are how loyal i am towards those i care about. I am a really reflective person. I have so much empathy and are really understanding of others feelings. I can be creative and emotionally expressive.

My weaknesses/worst qualities are probably how much i can overthink, i’m bad at seeing facial expressions and notice how others are feeling based on it. I don’t pick up on a lot. I can be too much in myself to notice my surroundings. I rarely use logic and i also have a really hard time understanding logic. I can be quiet when overwhelmed. Easily take things to heart. Anxiety affects many aspects of my daily life.

Socially i am introverted, quiet, and would make myself as small as possible for others to not noice me. I hate attention. I prefer small and close relations. I can open myself up and feel comfortable if i feel safe, (most with my gf) hate small talk because im so bad at social interaction if it’s not someone i know/feel safe with.

How i think, i spend a lot of time in my head trying to understand myself or to reflect. Interested in meaning and feelings behind actions. I have a tendency to sit and think for hours about everything and anything. I can see multiple sides of a. situation. But i can be be stuck in my own emotions.

My interests are history, music (not making or singing but listening) I can easily be emotionally tied to music/songs. I write alot and always has. I’ve been through multiple diaries, writing prose and about my life/feelings. I love spending time with my gf.

I value loyalty, my family and friends, especially my girlfriend. I value love, closeness, and feelings. I like political debates and i value seeing and learning different perspectives.

Unfairness and dishonesty makes me annoyed (i don’t really feel anger, and never have)

My girlfriend makes me happy, feel loved and safe. We have a close bond and ive learned alot about myself because of her. We have a funny, loving and strong relationship which i value alot and is the most important thing in my life.

I don’t do well with stress, i react strangely and i tend to do everything opposite of how it’s supposed to be done in stressful situations. I tend to withdraw from stressful situations and conflicts.

With my gf im open, i show everything i feel and express everything i feel. Im a closed book when it comes to others. But with her im 100% safe. I can be playful, i can be myself, i dont feel judged and im not afraid of seeking attention. My girlfriend would describe me as, kind, cute and loving, she would also describe me as slow, it can take time for me to fully understand things. Things that should come naturally for many others. She would describe me as silly and maybe a bit weird in a good way.

With her im not that shy girl everyone else sees. Recently learned a new dominant side of myself i didn’t know existed and didn’t know i enjoyed and liked so much. I’ve alway thought i was the submissive type, but ive been exploring a bit and realized i really enjoy that side of myself.

Fighting or bad vibe with my gf is the worst i know, i hate arguing and i hate conflict. It makes me overwhelmed, quiet, tired and i stay out of it as much as i possibly can.

Should also add, i used 40 minutes writing all this.

Hope anyone can help me!