so my sister has been trying to leave my moms house for some time now. out of all my moms children she has gotten the better version of my mom. very spoiled, lets her do what she wants. my mom created this sassiness lol. so her and my mom get in to it but it’s always my sister provoking (after I find out the true story). so the last time she tried to leave, her and my step sis provoked an argument, cops called after fighting with my mom. I let her come here but she was trying to roam around with her friends and do what she wants and I wasn’t having it. she was 16 then. DCF case was closed after no evidence of abuse/neglect so I made her go home because I have my own three kids (one autistic) and I wasn’t dealing with chasing behind a teen. after that incident my mom tried to switch it on me and say everything was my fault because I took her in when the police brought her here. so I stopped talking to them for some time.
Now here we are again. My mom is arguing with step dad, my sister interferes and starts fighting my mom , my sister pepper sprays my mom and so she gets pepper sprayed too. she comes to my house again. she’s 17. I let her stay here, she’s acting like she doesn’t want to go home, but then going back and forth home to clean her home. I said oh no we ain’t doing this again. then she tells me “can you fight to get custody of me” in my mind it makes no sense because she turns 18 in a month. she tells me her sister (step dads daughter) told her all this advice about wanting her to not have to pay for anything while she’s in college, and blah blah. and I’m like well if she wants that why won’t she take you in? because I’m a single mom and I can’t afford to take care of another person. not only that but when you leave your parents home and before that in the real world you have to pay for stuff. so she has this unrealistic expectation of what life is.
anywho i made her go back home. she turns 18 in 3 weeks. she told me she’s packing, but how should I tell her she can’t stay here. I have my own life, I have 3 kids, one autistic, I’m working and in school. I don’t need the extra baggage. she doesn’t have to leave my moms house, and the other sister should take her in. but everyone in the family always relies on me. maybe I should block them all