My bestfriend (16m) ignores me (16f) whenever he's upset and I can't take it anymore
Mike and I have known eachother for almost 5 years. We've been bestfriends for about 4, but the road has been bumpy. I admit for a lot of our arguments I was ignorant and in the wrong. But at the same time, all of these arguments have been started by him, and I feel some just aren't justified for the way he treats me (ignoring me)
For example of me being completely in the wrong; misgendering him by making crude jokes. Yep. I deserved that silence. Thankfully I've grown less ignorant and it hasn't been an issue since, but this sort of conflict is not what I'm talking about
For example of simpler things; called him loud while we were joking with our friends. He ignored me for a few days until I begged him to tell me what was wrong
Another time would be me touching him and his stuff after he told me not to (I thought he was joking whenever he would tell me to quit it out. yes, thats a shitty move on my part, but ignoring me? Why couldnt you just put your foot down over a text? I wouldve realized just as well that way)
And, our latest fight, I have no idea what set him off
I never know what sets him off. I only figure out after texting first and questioning him. If anything, I thought I was the one upset with him this time??
He had shouted something about me in class (basically poking fun at me) and I got embarrassed and told him to shut the fuck up. Then we didn't talk all week. Finally on Friday, I got him to speak to me after mentioning his favorite show, but it all crumbled in the next hour. I had asked to see his study guide (he had easily given it to our friend when she asked, so I thought it'd be fine if I asked too) but instead he frowned at me and said that I'm just going to copy it for a grade, and that I ask for too much (I literally do not), and that he doesn't want to
I got annoyed and said "be a bitch, dude. Whatever" (I really wasnt that mad, and my tone wasnt very serious. we use crude language all the time) Then he said "you think that attitude will make me want to give it to you?" so I got pissed and turned back around
We haven't spoken in a week since
I understand he's a sensitive person, but I literally cannot walk on eggshells around someone I consider my bestfriend. I can't count the amount of times I've spent crying over my phone trying to make amends with him. He knows I have issues, he knows I hate it when he ignores me. And he's literally told me before he ignores me because it gets a reaction and I'll know I did something wrong
I just don't know what to do. I know I'm in the wrong because I make him sad, but I don't want to be treated like this. He says this always repeats; that talking about our problems never leads to anything being fixed. And I dont know. I think hes wrong, but my memory is terrible. I cant remember if I *am* forgetting to watch myself, or what our past fights were even *about*. But I know hes wrong in some parts
I try to include him in everything since he's expressed his anxiety about being disliked by our friends
Whenever he looks down or isnt eating, I bring him food I know he likes because I know about his ED
But he acts like I dont respect him. Ive never once been angry at him. I was codependent for years over him. I just
I just dont know anymore. I need a neutral view. please