u/JunketHistorical7052

i'm 20, fairly new to D/s, and Dom-leaning. Right now I genuinely can't tell if I'm just anxious and inexperienced, or if this role doesn't actually fit me the way I thought it did.

I'm going through a rough patch in my current relationship trust and communication issues that have been building up. I want to take real responsibility and lead in this dynamic, but my anxiety makes it hard to act with any confidence, and I keep second-guessing whether the hesitation means anything real about the role, or just about where I'm at right now.

For those of you who've been through something similar how did you separate the anxiety from the actual fit? What helped you build real confidence early on, especially if you also deal with anxiety generally?