Just a little rant on the audacity of some MM
Little rant incoming.
I 39F and single/childfree have been engaged in a casual affair with an older MM for almost 2 years.
We have known each other years before it developed into this and we live 4 hours drive apart but I travel to his city for work often so that’s when we meet up.
It’s easy, we get on as friends and enjoy time together outside the bedroom as well as in the bedroom.
I came out of a marriage 2 years ago and have been having a great time being single, my life is very full with friends and hobbies, I am living alone and I love it!
I care about MM but I don’t feel emotionally connected to him…the sex is great and he is an added bonus in my life.
He is a bit of a guilt king I think…goes quiet after meet ups etc. I’ve never brought this up as quite frankly, it doesn’t affect me enough to raise it with him and of course, after a few days he’ll then ramp up communication again (don’t they all!) however what has really pissed me off is that I was due to be in his city for work next week and he said he was free and looking forward to seeing me etc but then he said due to family commitments he couldn’t make it….completely understand he has a wife and kids and these things happen.
Anyway, I have now made plans to meet with friends instead - booked a nice brunch and wine bar etc.
of course he has now messaged me and said he’s feeling fed up and is now free and wants to see me next week.
Sorry pal…I’ve made other plans now!
Where do some of these MM get their audacity from to make plans, cancel them and then expect you to be there waiting when and if they change their mind?
It’s the tone too - like not even a ‘are you still free?’ Just the assumption that he can change his mind and I will be there waiting.
I’ve told him that as he said he wasn’t free I’ve made alternative plans which hasn’t gone down too well…he messaged me saying ‘that’s harsh’
I don’t care, I’m not changing my plans to see my friends.
I’m not someone who is desperately waiting for you to click your fingers.
It’s given me the ick to be honest…