u/Justanewt

Howdy everyone,

I was adopted as an infant in Laredo, Texas in 1998. My adoption paperwork lists ABC Adoption Inc / ABC Adoption Agency as the agency involved in my adoption.

I had petitioned the courts to unseal my adoption records. I received all my documents with the help of a texas lawyer as an intermediary. I also called and have been in communication with the adoption agency, there is only one person running the agency now but they have only been there since 2007. Finally with the help of a Facebook search group, I was connected with a family that matched many of the details I had been given. I have now verified through both Ancestry and MyHeritage DNA testing that I am biologically related to this family.

I have spoken on the phone with the woman who is my biological mother, with a friend of mine translating between us. I have also had a video call with my biological parents and a biological cousin who helped translate.

My biological mother told me that my birthdate and some of the details listed in my adoption documents are wrong, and that what I have believed about my birth and adoption may not be accurate. She also said she never went through an adoption agency and never intended to place me for adoption.

According to her, a woman named “Sylvia Garcia” brought her to the U.S. with the promise of work. She says that on the day I was born, she was not allowed to see me, was told to leave or face deportation, and never knew what happened to me afterward.

The DNA tests confirm that I am biologically connected to the woman and man claiming to be my biological parents. I am trying to stay grounded and focus on verifiable facts, but I am still trying to understand and verify the specific details of what happened, including the adoption process, the accuracy of my records, and whether my adoption was truly voluntary.

I’m especially looking for information, advice, or experiences involving:

ABC Adoption Inc / ABC Adoption Agency

Laredo, Texas adoptions around 1998 or that general time period

Adoptions involving mothers from Mexico or border-area situations

Incorrect birthdates or incorrect birth details in adoption paperwork

Birth mothers later saying they never consented or did not understand what was happening

I’m not trying to accuse anyone without proof. I’m just trying to figure out what questions to ask, what records to request, and whether anyone else has experienced something similar.

For safety/context: I have not given anyone personal information that could be used for identity theft, and I have not given anyone money. They have not asked me for money or anything like that. So far, they have only asked to talk and communicate. They also really want to meet in person, but I’m unsure if I am ready for that yet.

Has anyone here had experience with ABC Adoption Inc / ABC Adoption Agency in Laredo or San Antonio, especially in the late 1990s? Has anyone discovered later that their adoption documents were inaccurate, or that their birth family’s version of events was very different from the official paperwork?

I would appreciate any advice on how to verify something like this decades later, what records I should request, or what steps I should take next to try and figure this out.

P.S. edit - deleted other post and wanted to correct/update some facts/wording.

Edit 2: added more context/background

Howdy everyone,

I was adopted as an infant in Laredo, Texas in 1998. My adoption paperwork lists ABC Adoption Inc / ABC Adoption Agency as being involved.

I recently petitioned the courts to unseal my adoption records, and with the help of a Facebook search group, I found a family that matches many of the details I was given. I have now verified through both Ancestry and MyHeritage DNA that I am biologically related to this family.

I’ve also spoken on the phone with the woman who may be my biological mother. She told me that the birthdate and some of the details listed in my adoption documents are wrong, and that what I’ve believed about my birth and adoption may not be accurate.

She also said she never went through an adoption agency and never intended to place me for adoption.

According to her, a “friend” brought her to the U.S. with the promise of work. She says that on the day I was born, she was not allowed to see me, was told to leave or face deportation, and never knew what happened to me afterward.

I’m trying to stay grounded and focus on verifiable facts. DNA confirms that I am biologically connected to this family, but I am still trying to verify the specific details of what happened, including the adoption process, the accuracy of my records, and whether my adoption was truly voluntary.

I’m especially looking for information or experiences involving:

ABC Adoption Inc / ABC Adoption Agency

Laredo, Texas adoptions around 1998

Adoptions involving mothers from Mexico or border-area situations

Incorrect birthdates or incorrect birth details in adoption paperwork

Birth mothers later saying they never consented or did not understand what was happening

I’m not trying to accuse anyone without proof. I’m just trying to figure out what questions to ask, what records to request, and whether anyone else has experienced something similar.

For safety/context: I have not given her personal information that could be used for identity theft, and I have not given her any money. She has not asked me for money or anything like that. So far, she has only asked to talk.

Has anyone here had experience with ABC Adoption Inc / ABC Adoption Agency in Laredo or San Antonio, especially in the late 1990s? Or has anyone discovered later that their adoption documents were inaccurate or that their birth family’s version of events was very different from the official paperwork?