u/Jylstin

Genuine Connections.

As the Title Suggest i really wanted to know what everyone thinks when someone needs or wants Genuine connections.

First off I've always wondered does Genuine Connection mean dating or can it also be friends? Pretty much me who is writing this know nothing of it as an Introvert who has little friends and occasionally goes out. Im a 24M who is a little shy never dated before and have just been going through life with the flow my whole life.

Recently I went to one of my Friends Massive Birthday Party at a Chalet and my social anxiety took over me as there were so many people I didn't know but luckily a few mutual friends were there to help me Calm myself. One of them who him and his gf were like let's say observing me throughout the party and Wanting to get to know me more (because it was the first time I met his gf) and it went pretty well as she made me feel extremely comfortable communicating.

When the party ended for some reason they wanted to intro me one of their friends and it shook me as it felt like it came outta nowhere so I just went and agreed to it but that was when it struck me and I haven't been able to stop thinking why they said of me Needing a Genuine Connection with someone to complement me and Support me as a person.

Fast forward to today, I met the girl only once with my same couple friends since that day and it's been like 3 months and more, I would say it went not so great but they said it went well so I trusted them but it really doesn't feel like it's progressing at all aswell as her being busy and stuffs(I did not get any of her socials and Contact information because it was just the first meeting). While reading this it's pretty obvious I'm quite an overthinker and my counsellor has said I have chronic overthinking and I wasn't really too worried about it.

So yeah ever since then I've just been wondering about "Genuine Connections" as this past half a year has been quite the rollercoaster of emotions for me as I went from being a person just focused on going on with my life to suddenly being pulled into the socializing scene even when I know it's for good intentions it just really didn't help my overthinking. I won't lie I am also a person yearning for connections because I feel like me and some of my friends don't seem to be connected in a way that makes me feel "loved". I have been trying to move on with life day by day but the thought about this has been eating me up a lot no matter how much I try to keep it I always feel "lonely".

Thanks everyone for reading :D. Really Appreciate any positive feedback and sharing! If anyone is interested to be friends or even looking for connections can drop me a DM too.

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u/Jylstin — 6 days ago