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How do you handle LEGITIMATE ESAs during a housing hunt?

I (43f) and my partner of 8 years (40m) keep bumping heads about how to handle my ESA (cat). He insists on disclosing during the application process and it's pissing me off. My clinician made it clear that providing the information ahead could lead to discrimination. I have bipolar 1, PTSD and an ADHD diagnosis. He's from Texas and thinks ESAs are something people use to game the system and seems almost embarrassed by the idea that people would assume we are also gaming the system.

It's infuriating because when we met I had an emotional support dog and he had no problem recognizing him as such. I got the cat when my dog was 13 as a replacement and my partner KNEW why. I don't think I would have survived losing my dog if I hadn't attached to the cat ahead of time. I don't want to feel like I'm narrowing our search.

I would love to hear how folks with ESAs have gone about disclosure to potential landlords.

Pictured: redacted letter of recommendation from my NP. My current ESA snuggling with her brother's heart wrapped in the shirt he wore on his last day.

u/KachitaB — 11 days ago

Accessing arrest records

This is an HR question about background checks. I tried to off myself in a state where it's against the law and as a result ended up in a scuffle with police after my boyfriend sent them to my home. They took me to the hospital and then jail, and charged me with battering a police officer and intimidation or something because you know, black woman, white cops.FFWD, I'm applying for my massage license after moving states and they want specific information because the arrests did not result in charges or convictions, but they don't know why. I contacted the police department and she said she could see that it was a suicide attempt, but that most of it was redacted. I'm fairly certain the reason it was redacted is that the boyfriend who called the police was a football player at my school, who went on to play in the NFL. So I feel like he's the one who hid the records to protect himself. But it's really a pain in my butt. It took two years for me to get approved for global entry because I couldn't prove that nothing came of the arrest. Oh, from 2008.

Tldr; Do people have the right to unredacted arrest records to clear up a background check?

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u/KachitaB — 4 months ago

MBLEx after moving

Took that bugger today. Passed, no clue how. I feel like I want to thank all the other test takers around me since I know it's curved.

I just moved to Arizona from California and the process is more complex and costly than I could have ever imagined. I was surprised when I tried looking for other therapists who made the same move and didn't find anyone to help. So, if anyone else is moving from another state to Arizona, feel free to check in if you need advice. The process is so much longer than it was for California. Now I'll just be hanging out for the next 5 to 8 weeks. 😁

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u/KachitaB — 4 months ago

I'm coming from a state where curbside recycling will pick up clean cardboard if it's flattened and bundled. Currently in Ahwatukee and I just learned that large cardboard would have to be saved for bulk pickup. I refuse to pass judgment, but what? Can anyone direct me in how best to recycle cardboard boxes but do not fit in the blue bin? Additionally, I had an old metal shelf that I broke down and put in the garbage bin but was told that they would pull it out and not take it? Everything online seems salesy and contradictory. Please help!

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u/KachitaB — 5 months ago