u/Kaevvvin

Someone may recognize me from the "am I selfish for preserving myself" post on this sub. I finally found the courage to establish my boundaries.

If you guys feel like they're stepping on you, please let them know how much is too much. It's something small but it really changes everything for Isfjs.

Yes, you may argue, but it's good because conflict makes you grow. To say it better: conflict with an healthy person makes you grow! They want your best, but they also want you to be a better person, as we should all aspire to.

It's true that you must fight for what you love.

Life will feel much lighter that way.

P.s. I love this sub you guys are so kind and supportive. THANK YOU

So, I'm dealing with people pleasing and a big fear of loneliness with my therapist. She told me to listen to my self and follow my body. At the same time, this often implies saying a lot of NOs. I noticed people around me, especially 2 out of 3 of my siblings (ESTP m, INFP f) keep pointing out I'm too sensitive, selfish and even that I sacrifice too little for others. Obviously I'm not writing this to call them out (they could be right from what you know) but I just don't feel like this is true. My take is that I've got everyone too used to me being always available.

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So the point is, fellows ISFJ, do you ever get tagged as selfish when it's just self-improvement?