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Follow up to my other question. I just want to hear how ISFJs in general would react to it, regardless of whether you reciprocated or not.

It's a rather unique experience per se but I'd love to hear from ISFJ men (but all are welcome) who may have experienced my question above?

Without giving too much information, there's this guy who I've known for a while, but lately, he has been expressing interest. One time, he said out loud that he sensed my presence and that his gut feelings are rarely wrong. He then proceeded to do something that he knew I liked.

It doesn't happen all the time, but I've witnessed it a few times to say that it's not purely coincidental. Till this day, I don't know how or what it is, that he's just able to tell I'm around his proximity. I'm amazed and full of questions. I don't even know if it's just towards me or if he also has other senses towards other people.

So I'm here to try to understand from you ISFJs. Is there someone significant in your life that you can just feel with absolute certainty they're near you? If so, how? What about them that makes your senses tingle? What's your story like?

It's so interesting and definitely special to know someone knows when you're around them. So I'd hope to hear from you folks :)

Hopeless romantic is someone who has an idealized view of love and destiny (to put it simply) which seems unlikely for a grounded Si-dom to be(?)...but would it be so strange? The character I'm writing is a devoted warrior with a strong sense of duty and justice, part of their development is to learn the value of freedom outside of one's duty and to live for themselves, they have an adventurous side that longs to travel, see and learn more of what the world has to offer, I feel like secretly they enjoy the idea of a romantic tale but ultimately find such things unrealistic (but deep down longs for it)

i wonder if this sounds more infx to some? After writing this character I was actually debating between Infj and Isfj but they have little to none Ni, but a very strong Si-Fe, and I also see more Inf-Ne than Se in them.

Any hopeless romantic Isfjs out there?

I'm asking because my mother is clearly an ISTJ and we have some differences, but I learned to accomodate my behaviour to be more efficient which led me to think I'm an ISTJ too.

(And it is possible I still am but did any ISFJ mistype themselves as ISTJ for this reason?)

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I’m an ENFP and have recently realized I’m in love with my best friend of 5 years. I don’t know what to do. I kind of don’t want to be the one to tell them, bc part of me also thinks they feel it too, but I don’t want to be delusional and want to hear from other ISFJs how they’d like me to proceed.

Edit: sorry guys, “HAVE YOU EVER FALLEN IN LOVE WITH A FRIEND?” I can’t write apparently 😑

I thrive in one-on-one settings. I love listening to people, having conversations filled with depth where we can vent, understand each other's souls, talk about everyday life, etc. I'm an active listener, and I have so much to say one on one.

In groups, I often find myself feeling like an outsider and like I don't belong. Even with people I get along with one on one, in group settings, I find myself having a hard time keeping up and end up feeling like the odd one out.

Someone may recognize me from the "am I selfish for preserving myself" post on this sub. I finally found the courage to establish my boundaries.

If you guys feel like they're stepping on you, please let them know how much is too much. It's something small but it really changes everything for Isfjs.

Yes, you may argue, but it's good because conflict makes you grow. To say it better: conflict with an healthy person makes you grow! They want your best, but they also want you to be a better person, as we should all aspire to.

It's true that you must fight for what you love.

Life will feel much lighter that way.

P.s. I love this sub you guys are so kind and supportive. THANK YOU

to the older isfj's in here, whats some advice you wish you could tell your past self:)

Hello! 25F here. I’ve been going through a lot of changes in my life and could use the advice of some of stability-loving ISFJs like myself. There has been a lot going on, but I will try to be concise.

In Dec 2022, one semester away from my college graduation, my grandfather unexpectedly passed. It was hard on all of us. He was the rock in our family and it was shocking to us. My mom moved in with my grandma to care for her until she passed in Feb 2024.

In August 2024, I moved states to start my teaching career. It was hard to move away from my family and friends, especially after the loss of my grandparents, but I did. It was the hardest year of my life, possibly. I ended up in therapy and on an anxiety med (which was INCREDIBLY helpful). Then in April 2025, I met a guy.

We became bf/gf and dated seriously. I loved his family. I felt like my life was finally beginning: living on my own, at the start of my career, in my first relationship and talking about the potential for marriage.

And then in January 2026, he unexpectedly broke up with me. I was completely blindsided. He wanted more time to focus on his business, in a nutshell. This was something we had discussed before, months previously, and he was adamant that it wouldn’t be an issue.

I was devastated. I barely ate for two weeks. I felt like I lost the future I’d been building towards and actually began to question to meaning of my life. And then the final blow: my school told me I wouldn’t be renewed for the following year.

So, having lost my relationship and my job, I decided to move back home and start a new career. I’m very happy to back home and am happy in my new office job. I’ve been dating but nothing has stuck and some of the rejections have hit harder than others.

I find myself struggling with feelings of emptiness and ask myself “what’s the point” of work, hobbies, etc. I want to have a family and it feels like I’m running out of time and don’t have control over my life. I’m also a devout Catholic and have found myself struggling in my spiritual life in the wake of all this. My close friends have mostly moved away from home as well. I should add though that I am still on my medication and am starting up with a new therapist now that I’ve moved states.

I’d welcome any advice you have to give!