AITA for not apologising to my bio cousin when she got mad at me for having a better family life?
My bio family was very abusive. They barely gave any love and no school education. and I had to be taken out of there by CPS.
I was extremely lucky to be taken in by my amazing family and I know enough about my bio family to know I want nothing to do with them again.
My parents adopted one other kid alongside me and have two biological kids as well. I consider all of them my siblings. One my adoptive siblings is Nathan, who recently got engaged to Kate. She is my bio siblings- biological cousin who they couldn't take because of the expenses of us 4. We found out a couple years ago but things are fine now. So, Kate was adopted at 8 years old, but didn't have a good experience. She never knew her bio family- my adoptive mother doesn't know where her sister and husband- Kate's parents went. Her adoptive family wanted to keep it that way. They were very controlling of her, and it led to a lot of conflict and trauma for her. The thing is that Kate can't see adoption in any other way now. She believes that adoption is evil, it tears people away from their families, and she thinks kids are brainwashed by CPS and adoptive parents into thinking it's okay. She can have a bad temper so I mostly try to avoid her. She got really angry and slapped a younger kid for calling adoption cool. My family burried it under the rug. She knows I'm adopted, and when we talk about it, she says I've just buried the trauma. She's convinced that deep down I really love my bio family and adopted kids in the US are really just commodities who have been bought and sold against our will. I've told Nathan that she needs to shut up about it, but this Saturday, while we were all at my parents', she tried bringing it up again. I snapped at her that I don't care how bad her adoption experience was—mine was great and she needs to drop it. Kate got really angry. She threw a glass on the wall missing my head by an inch. She said I was just rubbing my better experience in her face. She said that she doesn't know how it feels with estranged parents Now my adoptive family said I took it too far and I should acknowledge how Kate felt. They are trying to make me apologize- Kate won't speak Aita?
Edit: Typo in the original text! Kate is my mother's niece (the daughter of my mother's sister), not my parents' cousin. And Kate isn't my bio cousin! I'm sorry for writing that the words are all over the place