Domestic Life Advice: AITAH
So AITAH, I’ve 37/M been with my partner 32/F coming up on 10 years. We started as friends through a college buddy and went from there. We’ve been through a ton. Recently(last year or two) I’ve noticed just a lack of caring. They’re not as clean as they once were. I’m a very clean person and they know that. We’ve always had a clean house and everything has its place. The main reason for this post is that they’re letting themselves go. Their feet stink to high heaven with no care to get it looked at and figured out. Their breath stinks like the trash, they were a Dental Hygienist when we got together so I just don’t understand. Lastly their Coochie stinks so bad that I just can’t. It’s been almost 2 years since we’ve had sex. It smells so bad. Then they get all offended and mad at me because they smell…. Like what should I do? There’s much more as well. Just the whole lack of respect towards me yet when I treat them how they treat me I’m a piece of shit. So much gaslighting always. For the past 10-12 months I’ve honestly started to feel I’ve wasted the last decade of my life with this chick. I just don’t want to only have a stank coochie for the rest of my life, I can’t live in stank and disorder and I refuse to spend my time with someone who treats me like this… but I also feel like a piece of shit because I told them I was down for the long run(I don’t believe in marriage as a guy in America) but like what do I do? I’m tired of being unhappy with where I’m at and I’m getting older… what do I do? And if I’m to break it iff whats the best way? We still have 11 months left on our lease and they’re my best friend, I just don’t feel that way about them anymore… I feel like a total piece of shit for this but at the same time I want to be happy in life and I’m not happy right now…