u/Kalec33

I'm (34M) growing tired of trying to get my partner(34F) to help out around the house

We've been together for 6+ yrs. In that whole time, we never really had an even split in chores or finances. In the beginning, when I would go about doing house chores (cleaning, dishes, laundry, etc). She would help out and even did quite a bit like deep cleaning, although it should take her the whole day to do one room while I did the rest of the house and outdoor chores as well. First, she would help. Later, she would begrudgingly help on occasion. Finally, about a year ago, we talked it through (again) and decided she would be in charge of the kitchen, and I'd do the pet chores, and we'd split the rest. Very quickly, that became only dishes, and even then, it was once a week even once every 2 weeks. The sink is virtual overful making it useless for other needs. Everything else fell to me. I am so tired. We have very clear communication in virtually every aspect of our relationship, and it's really good outside of these issues and other smaller behaviors. We've talked about this many, many times, but it just has come to the point where it's clear she isn't going to make any meaningful effort here. Instead, she's delved into yet another hobby that consumes her whole day, making no time for chores. I worked a long weekend only to realize that she hadn't done anything. The cats had no food. There were no clean dishes. Not even silverware. There were clothes and dishes and garbage tucked away in every corner. I spent over an hour cleaning it all up and doing the dishes after she went to bed. She never even noticed. What do I even do here? I hate feeling like I have to be her parent to get her to be even remotely responsible. All my downtime is spent doing errands and chores and have very little time for anything I actually enjoy doing. I'm at a loss. How can I get her to make meaningful change?