u/KaleidoscopeQuick555

Like the title say, my (24M) ex (26F) broke up with me earlier this year. Ever since I’ve stopped reaching out to her and been focusing on myself. She wanted to break up to be on her own and work on her mental health (her words not mine). Fine.

Last month she reached out telling me she still years for me and wants me back because she loves me so much. As any ex would, I asked her if she’s seen other people (I’d seen one person by this point but tha just included talking) turns out she has. Seven guys. Told me she only ever kissed them and kissing isn’t as bad as having sex so I should not think about it. So I asked her, are you still seeing someone. She says yes.

She’s single she can do whatever she wants. But it feels unfair to me for her to come back and dangle that in front of me. I still have feelings for her what do I do.

I had my girlfriend of 6 years break up with me about 6 months ago. Since then, I’ve moved to Manchester and healed from the breakup.

I have started using dating apps and I barely get any matches (say 1 match in a week full of swiping). I used to have a very positive outlook on my appearance but moving to such a big city, looking at everyone around me, I consider myself quite unattractive compared to all the other people out there.

I started hitting the gym since the breakup and have lost about 40 pounds of weight and have reached a place in life where I am not disgusted by how I look (albeit I don’t like taking pictures of myself so my most recent self isn’t visible on my dating profiles). I take care of my skin and keep myself well groomed. Additionally I have started engaging in my favorite hobbies and interests which has left me feeling close to content in the last 6 months. But the loneliness never goes away.

I wish someone would yearn for me and ask me out without leaving the expectations of a pursuit on me. But considering how attractive others are around me, there isn’t a point in approaching someone anyway.

How do you guys cope with feeling like this?