Husband won't work while I work 2 jobs ? 56M 52F
I'm writing for your opinion as usually a strangers advice is much more honest and so I thank you for taking the time to read this. I've been married over 20 years. I work 2 jobs 60 hours a week. We have no children living with us. They've grown and flown so to speak. My husband doesn't work. He says he just "can't people anymore". He hasn't worked for at least 10 years. I pay for everything (bills and food and everything inbetween) and transfer money to him every payday as he says he needs things (usually bits for his bike or clothes or petrol) life has been like this for years. He has issues and gets angry. He is not violent but he calls me names daily, smashes things sometimes and gives me the silent treatment. He's not spoken to me for 3 days currently. Has slept in the shed and hasn't ventured in for food. There was no preceding argument. This is recurrent behaviour from him. He says I'm lazy as I don't get to do much housework. After working both jobs everyday I'm exhausted to be honest. I do the washing, shopping, dishes. I'm so tired. I took a fall and he refused to take me to hospital so I had to drive not realising i had broken my toes. I broke my knee a year ago in an accident so when I told him I broke my toes this time he was angry. I still worked ( my jobs are desk based ). I think I should leave him. I care for him. His family want nothing to do with him. He has nowhere to go and so I am stuck living like this and even if he did have a place to go he wouldn't. He refuses to get a job. He thinks he's entitled. He's old fashioned and far right. What would you do ?