I'm drowning
I, 42f, and my husband ,38m, were doing decently 8 months ago. Then I met H, 30f, and her wife V, 32f. They were struggling and had been kicked out of the camper that they were renting after H lost her job. My husband and I felt bad for them and wanted to help them get back on their feet so we let them move in with us with the plan for them to find jobs and save money over about 6 months so that they could find a place of their own again. They were supposed to pay us about $400 a month to help with bills and rent. Neither of them found a job during this time and dragged out the time they were here. They paid us a total of about $200 in the entire 8 months they where here. Instead of helping out, they ran our bills up, drove my vehicles into the ground (my car that I just got in Jan was working well when I received it. Since then I've had to put it in the shop twice), and asked us for money constantly to get weed, vapes, and snacks. They both received food stamps which they swore each month that they would help buy food for the house, but instead only bought junk food that they would eat a months worth of food (about $600) in just a week. They never bought any actual food to help in the household. Hailey cleaned some, but never well. I had to constantly wash the dishes again after she did them or clean things again after she did. I appreciated that she tried, but it was exhausting to redo everything all the time. We finally got them to move back out, but neither of them have a job still and are living in a camper that has no running water or bathroom. Since they live about a block away, they are still here constantly using our bathroom, laundry, kitchen, etc. Essentially, they just sleep somewhere else, but still basically live here. They are still constantly asking for money. We went from basically no debt to literally thousands of dollars of debt and 2 vehicles that need a lot of work. I was a stay at home wife that worked 16 hrs a week caregiving for my friend's autistic son. Now I'm working 3 jobs and my husband is working 60+ hrs a week so that we can try to climb out of this debt. My problem is that no matter how hard we work nothing seems to be getting better. The car that i need to get to my jobs started having issues and I can't drive it anymore. They are using my truck so I have to ask for it back, but it's having issues as well. In the past few months we've had our fridge go out, our stove catch fire and die, we had to put down one of our cats that caught a virus when we got her fixed and we weren't able to save her, one of our dogs got hit by a car and passed away, and both of the cars started having major issues. There have been other major issues, but I'm sleep deprived and can't think of them. I can't sleep because I can't get my mind to shut off from thinking about how instead of helping these women pull themselves up, they just drug us in the hole that they just keep digging further and further. I'm sure that not all of these things are their fault, but we were doing so well before they were here. Our house was so quiet and peaceful. We were doing well financially. We had none of these issues. Now we're drowning. I don't know what to do to climb back out of this. I can't get a 4 th job because there is not enough time in the day and I'm already exhausted constantly. I see my husband only for about an hour a day. I'm not even sure i can get to the jobs that I have because I'm not sure my vehicles will get me there anymore. I'm sorry that this is mostly just a rant about how I don't know what to do. I'm just exhausted and can't find my peace anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.