u/Kalu2907

Hi there, I need some help. Please keep it simple; I'm neurodivergent and going through burnout. I've wanted to back up my computer for a long time, but I'm not sure how to do it or which hard drive to buy.

Regarding the hard drive, I'm looking for something reliable that doesn't crash easily. Do you have any product suggestions, or what should I look for before buying? I have many photos and videos, so I definitely need at least 2 terabytes.

When saving the files, should I just copy and paste them to the hard drive, or should I zip them using software? If so, do you recommend any good software?

Hi there,

I need some help here.

I'm planning to go to university or college, but I'm finding it very confusing, and I feel completely overwhelmed. I'm in my 30s, neurodivergent, and have a physical disability, which is the main reason I had to put my study plans on hold.

I currently work part-time and have always worked in retail and hospitality. I have Level 2 qualifications, and it seems unlikely I'll be admitted to any university without completing a foundation year first.

I'd like to study something related to wildlife, conservation, or zoology. However, I also enjoy neuroscience, dietetics, or "practical" science subjects (though I'm still not entirely clear on what yet). I was thinking of doing a year of Applied Science first, and from there, hopefully gaining a clearer idea of what I want to pursue.

Alternatively, I'm wondering if I'm dreaming here, maybe I could get an entry-level, part time woul be ok, job with a college certificate and that would be enough to progress to the second year of any science-based university, since I'd have studied what I need and achieved the required grades.

The problem is that my health situation changed everything, especially because I waited a very long time. Now, with all this AI development and so on, it feels even more confusing trying to decide what path to take.

I would really appreciate your opinion on my ideas. What I should or shouldn't consider. Is it more worthwhile to do a foundation year and then go to university, or just do a broader college course, or any other course, hopefully find a job, and then, with a clearer idea, pick a university later? Or perhaps there is a college course I can do just to get an entry-level position in science fields and secure the grades I need for uni?

Also, do you think wildlife and conservation are good career choices? Getting disabled really shook the core of everything in my life. Is there any professional figure that might help clear my mind? Apart from normal talking therapy.

Any considerate advice is welcomed here, as I feel I'm going to keep thinking and never make a decision due to the confusion.

Hi there, I feel so sad right now. I'm going through a breakup, and it's been awful.

I'm someone who grew up in domestic abuse, I'm neurodivergent, and unfortunately, I have messed up health.

Unfortunately, I didn't always show up as I wanted in the relationship, and I feel so much sorrow for that. But I also believe that, in the end, they put everything on me just so they wouldn't feel awful leaving me in such a state.

I've been doing therapy for many years and really tried hard, but it still ended. (I started it for myself, but I also saw it as an opportunity to manage certain behaviors I didn't like of me in the relationship.) I don't have any family support because I had to cut ties

The only friends I have live very far from me, and they aren't very present due to their families, but also because they're tired of hearing just problems from me.

I would have never imagined myself so alone and forgotten by everyone. It's very hard not to become cold and cynical in this situation.

People don't realize how hard it is developing a health condition due to the abuse, and the same abuse that you tried to heal from showed up so much in my relationships, especially the last one, that it ruined them.

I take full responsibility of my actions, but fuck, I got sick. It was scary and awful. Like surviving, the abuse wasn't enough, I also have to go through doing so much therapy and still not be fine.

Will it ever end? I never felt so alone my whole life, and being incapable of fully looking after myself in this state is such unbearable pain.

I'm so tired of always being the one to pick myself up. It's not just fair. People don't realize this. They think you just want to play the victim card. But God, I tried so hard to leave that environment, then I finally did, just to end up with a chronic illness that made me not just incapable of looking after myself but also so financially insecure that it makes it so scary.

How do you get through this? I'm so tired of fighting. I've been doing this my whole life. When will I start living instead of surviving?

I remember reading a random Sylvia Plath quote that says: "I need a father, I need a mother. I need some older, wiser being to cry to. I talk to God, but the sky is empty." I never felt anything resonate so much with what I'm feeling now.

I feel so empty, heavy, and in such a painful state. I'm not getting younger, so I'm not sure what to look forward to.

I call those charities that help you get through the hard times. Just to feel less lonely, but it's a different story when someone cares for you and stays with you through it.