Navigating petty disputes and starting to think as I crazy atp!
I (24f) and my bf (25m) have been together for 8 years now. I know…. But I am having issues with our disagreements and don’t really know what to do. I can’t help but feel that the arguments are very much over very dumb things. Now I do try to not just dismiss my partners feelings and I try to see things from another view but I am starting to kind of get exhausted at this point. For example, today I deep cleaned the kitchen and threw away all the half drunken waters in the fridge and of course other things that weren’t being eaten. A lot of times my bf will leave half drunken waters and empty bottles/ paper cups in the fridge instead of just throwing them out, so I assumed this was the case here and threw them out. We still however have plenty of other fresh waters he can have. He called me on his way home and told me that he wanted the last flavored one and to not drink it and I said ok and politely asked if he can make sure he drinks it all and if he doesn’t to put it where he remembers that it’s his bc I threw the others (opened ones) out while cleaning. He then says why did I throw it out and that he just opened it 2 days ago and was going to drink it. I then said “oh my bad well I done threw them out now, they’re in the trash”. And then he says “ I am just so rude and nasty” and didn’t even think to call and ask he was he going to drink them.
TL;DR: Long story short he now has blown this up into a whole argument of me being inconsiderate and rude over throwing away the half drunken waters. He ignores me and expects me to come to him and try to “make it right” by apologizing and pleading with him (even though I’m sure he’s going to ignore me and say he doesn’t want to hear what I have to say) I really just don’t understand why this is a battle that he feels is worth fighting and going so hard for. I already apologized for throwing them out but I can’t just go take them out of the garbage. I did get frustrated and raise my tone a bit because he kept hanging up in my face and saying that I said he was “doing too much” which I did not even say… we have other little arguments just over stuff like this. Wonder if it is anything I can do differently?
Am I crazy?