Should I let it continue?
I’m a 30 something femal. I have 1 10yr old son. I’ve been with his dad 11 years. His dad let’s call him C has 4 other children 1 from a one mom(bm#1) and 3 from another(bm#2). From the beginning of our relationship bm#2 has always came to his family functions uninvited. Which has made it very awkward. Especially in the beginning of our relationship. He kept telling me that as soon as the kids get older she’ll stop coming around. Well yesterday at Cs family function she showed up with the kids. The kids were invited but she wasn’t. I put up with it because of the kids. But now all of the kids are adults should I still put up with it? Bm#2 has a child that is younger from a different man that she also brought to C’s family function. I kind of feel like she’s not realizing that it’s not her place to be. But I thought since her kids are adults she’d stop coming around. I’d understand if it was a funeral or maybe a larger event like a wedding but not a birthday party. She hasn’t been with C in over a decade. And the kids don’t need her to be at the functions with them anymore. Would I be the jerk if I said something? or am i being a jerk in general for thinking it’s not her place to be there?