AITA for refusing to follow my friend’s parents’ house rules and leaving?
(Throwaway account because it’s too specific of a story and our friend is on Reddit)
My (22F) boyfriend (23M) and I have been together since high school, almost 6 years. We just moved in together after I graduated in May. We’re not officially engaged yet but planning to get married once he finishes grad school.
An old friend from high school invited us to his family’s beach house for the holiday last weekend. When we got there Friday, we realized his mom and dad were spending the weekend, too. Which was fine, it’s their house, and they seemed to have their own plans for the weekend. They were happy to let us do our own thing during the days, and they had drinks in the hot tub with us Friday evening and were actually really cool.
But that night, when my boyfriend and I started getting ready for bed, our friend’s mom pulled me aside and said that my boyfriend would need to sleep on the couch in the living room instead of with me in the guest room because we aren’t married. I was surprised because our friend hadn’t mentioned this and my boyfriend and I live together and everything. I said okay but felt really uncomfortable.
I have trouble sleeping in new places and sleeping next to my boyfriend helps. My boyfriend also was annoyed he had to sleep on an uncomfortable couch when there’s a perfectly good bed. So we decided it would be best to get a hotel in town and meet up with our friend the next morning.
When we told our friend, he was kind of weird about it but said okay. So we left and checked in to our hotel.
The next morning we called to see what time our friend wanted to meet up. He seemed mad and he couldn’t hang out and that his mom and dad flipped out at him for letting us go to a hotel and said we “didn’t appreciate their hospitality”.
So we ended up just doing our own thing for the weekend and not seeing our friend at all. Our friend texted us today (Monday) saying he was really angry that we couldn’t have slept apart for two nights just to make his parents happy, and that we won’t be invited to Friendsgiving this year (he hosts for our high school friend group every year).
So are we the AH for leaving and getting our own place?