u/Key_Pear1210

Sex hasn’t been fun in so long. Trying and trying and it not working and timing sex just takes the mood out of it too. I have to have a hysterectomy due to some serious issues and I can’t wait until I’m healed, I hope sex can be fun again. No pressure to make a baby, no worries that I’ll bleed all over… I just pray that I can take some of my life back and enjoy sex again. 12 years of trying, I’m ready for fun again. As I’m rapidly approaching my surgery I’m just grieving this life we dreamed of, and I’m just so hopeful that we flourishing after it’s said and done. I just want to bloom again, and feel something again. I’ve been so angry, and down. I just want happiness, and most of all I just want to heal.

What thing/things did you do pre surgery that you were so grateful for? Eating healthy/exercising etc not included. I’m talking like food prep, house prep etc.
We aren’t DINK’s, we are SINKs- single income no kids. My husband works and I cook, and clean, and do all that sort of stuff. He is taking off 2 weeks of work to be with me. On top of getting the hysterectomy I also struggle with epilepsy, and severe chronic fatigue. Just looking for all the ways to help prepare myself and my husband:) my surgery is in 28 days. Thanks in advance!

What was your post surgery meal and what did mostly eat the first week after surgery? Regular meals you typically would? Soups? Very light like crackers, jello etc? Did you meal prep anything that you’re thankful for? Someone said on here they meal prepped and actually didn’t end up eating what they made because they couldn’t stomach it. I know everyone appetite and recovery is different, just wonder and looking for ideas. I’m 40 days away!

Hi, flagging for potential sensitive topic such as ivf/fertility treatments.
This is just a vent, but feel free to chime in.
I have a friend who is doing ivf, we met through a fertility group years ago. She’s been an okay friend, I do sorta feel like I put more into the friendship than she does. She is a-little self centered and tends to turn everyone on her. If I talk about my feelings she says “aw”, every one in a while she will send something nice and meaningful. I stopped talking about my stuff because she makes me feel so small. However I’m getting a hysterectomy because of a cancer condition, and my husband and I decided to not persue human children in any form at all anymore. My friend knows this. But it’s like she’s oblivious to what I’m going through because all she talks about is ivf, her treatments etc, sometimes even complaining about the steps she’s taking with ivf. Her husband isn’t even supportive of her. She’s paying for everything herself, he literally just gave the sperm. They are unhappy in their marriage, yet doing ivf to have a child together. I’m slowly starting to not talk to her anymore, my replies are only a few short words. If she sends me a video through text talking about the ivf I don’t even watch it. Maybe it makes me selfish. I’m not jealous, I’m okay with where my journey is headed for the most part. I’m excited to have quality time with my husband but it does bother me that she’s not sensitive to the topic, especially because she’s went through infertility herself so she knows how it feels. Reading this back it’s obvious that I should stop being friends with her. I have hung in there because she could relate with me but obviously our lives are headed in 2 different directions.

Hi friends. Having my hysterectomy in a few months. I have pcos bad- like really really bad. What’s the benefit of keeping my ovaries vs not keeping them? I understand the immediate menopause if you get rid of them. But does the pro of not having them outweigh the con? For reference 31 years old, 12 years of infertility. I’m getting a hysterectomy because of endometrial hyperplasia with atypical cells. Getting everything taken out except ovaries at this point. I wanted to gather info before talking to the oncologist doing my surgery.