Friend going through ivf
Hi, flagging for potential sensitive topic such as ivf/fertility treatments.
This is just a vent, but feel free to chime in.
I have a friend who is doing ivf, we met through a fertility group years ago. She’s been an okay friend, I do sorta feel like I put more into the friendship than she does. She is a-little self centered and tends to turn everyone on her. If I talk about my feelings she says “aw”, every one in a while she will send something nice and meaningful. I stopped talking about my stuff because she makes me feel so small. However I’m getting a hysterectomy because of a cancer condition, and my husband and I decided to not persue human children in any form at all anymore. My friend knows this. But it’s like she’s oblivious to what I’m going through because all she talks about is ivf, her treatments etc, sometimes even complaining about the steps she’s taking with ivf. Her husband isn’t even supportive of her. She’s paying for everything herself, he literally just gave the sperm. They are unhappy in their marriage, yet doing ivf to have a child together. I’m slowly starting to not talk to her anymore, my replies are only a few short words. If she sends me a video through text talking about the ivf I don’t even watch it. Maybe it makes me selfish. I’m not jealous, I’m okay with where my journey is headed for the most part. I’m excited to have quality time with my husband but it does bother me that she’s not sensitive to the topic, especially because she’s went through infertility herself so she knows how it feels. Reading this back it’s obvious that I should stop being friends with her. I have hung in there because she could relate with me but obviously our lives are headed in 2 different directions.