u/Key_Winter3953

In professional and personal life, when I make a mistake , It feels like the end of the world to me. Like it is difficult to accept that mistakes so petty are made by me. Then my mind continuously keeps on thinking about the consequences over and over again , as if the more I will think about it somehow I will find a solution. Whereas people around me move on so easily from such situations. Do you guys also beat yourself up? If not how do you'll cope with such situations.

I am 26F. Today, My mother told me to bath as soon as I wake up in the morning, during my periods. I usually wake up by 7 am and go for a bath at 8am, as I have to reach my office by 9:30, and follow the same routine when I am on periods too. But now she wants me to bathe as soon as I wake up and not touch anything before that.

Now for context, my family is looking forward to my marriage soon and are actively searching for my partner through arrange marriage set-up.

My mother says that's how it happens in families and is therefore going to be expected from me by my in-laws.

Is what she says is actually normal in your families? Or is it some patriarchal way of controlling women?

Or is it just unhygienic and not pure ( in her words) to not bath as soon as one wakes up?